- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Hi all, I have a real big bug up my butt and I need some one to listen. I am the bride to be, and I am planning my entire Bridal Shower!! Can you believe that! Well, here’s the story.
When I announced to everyone that I was getting married to the man I have been with for 12 years, they were not the least happy for me. My mom and I got into a conversation one evening about me not having a Bridal Shower, because I’m not throwing it for myself (yeah right) and I didn’t have the extra money for that. I am a single (soon to be married) mom. My 14yr old son has Autism, and my fiance’ is not his "real" dad, but you wouldn’t know it. Medical bills have been outrageous, hence the not getting married for 12 yrs, we had no money. Anyway…My mom said well me and grandma (my grandma) will pay for your shower, you will have a $1,000 budget. But I’m too busy so you have to plan it. So I agreed. Me and my Maid/Matron of Honor started planning, (I found a banquet room with all the food for $600) well as things needed to be bought, I bought them with the intention of my mom paying me back. With that said, I brought it to my mom’s attention that she needed to reimburse me, she proceeded to say NO! That all she would pay for was the food, nothing else! HELLO…."Me and grandma will PAY for your shower", does she think we can just invite people and have nothing but food!!! So, I have paid for all of the shower so far spending $400!!! No one is paying for anything for my wedding either! Me and my husband to be are getting married in Las Vegas in September, and no one wanted to go, I was even called "selfish and self-centered" for having MY WEDDING in another location, even though if I would have had it at home, no one would help me pay for it knowing I have no money! That’s why were going to Vegas, to have a inexpensive wedding and honeymoon wrapped into one.
So,I have bought gifts for my guests, made party favors, ordered the cake, booked the location, picked out and made all my invitations, all the while I’m planning my wedding. I am so mad and frustrated! If I would have known prior to all of this, I would have never started, because I did not plan on having to pay for anything. Also,my Maid/Matron of Honor said she would help with the details, and it’s 2 months away and I still can’t get her to help, she’s too busy. And mind you all these people are the "hosts" on the invitation!!! What a joke!!!
I’m soooo frustrated!!!! But thanks for listening.