(Closed) Bride Requesting Themed Shower

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Can the bride request a themed shower?
    Totally fine if the hostess has already offered to throw a shower : (43 votes)
    41 %
    Only if the hostess asks for suggestions : (52 votes)
    49 %
    No! Hostess gets to plan without bride's input : (5 votes)
    5 %
    Obligatory "Other" (please comment with your brilliant response!!) : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2488 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Depends who is throwing it.

    My Mom and my Maid/Matron of Honor headed my showers and they had a meeting with all the BM’s and myself to discus ideas and give me a party.. I was included in alot of the planing and helped pay for some a little…

    It depends on your relationship and culture. For me and my group thats normal… for many Bee’s hearing this will give them a heart attack.

    You know your situation best.

    Be thankful for what you get but its always ok to polietly ask for what you want!

    In My Humble Opinion

    Post # 4
    4061 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s an awesome idea  You need decorations as much as you need a toaster

    Post # 5
    731 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @MexiPino:  I completely agree with @alishaloo:  Some people on here may have a heart attack but in our family/ group it is very common for the bride to play some part in the planning. They asked me what I want and I told them!!  

    Post # 7
    2488 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @MexiPino:   Some bees …. Well to put it nicely they have a huge stick up their ass. Haha or their nose glued to the air haha.

    every detail about my wedding offended SOMEONE! Here or in my family. But that same detail someone else loved.

    wedding planning is so over rated and over stressful …

    Dnot even worry about it ! 

    Post # 8
    8731 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @MexiPino:  I think if they ask you what you want then go ahead and tell them. But I think offering it unsolicated is presumptuous. It could be possible that the people who have offered to host your showers have already planned around a theme or style they are comfortable with. Basically these people are doing a nice thing for you and I personally think making demands of them is stepping over the line.

    Post # 9
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It all depends on where you are from.

    I’ve been to many showers with themes.. and never thought twice.

    Lingerie, decor, home, date night – none of them bothered me, but it’s pretty common where I live!

    I will probably have a theme of kitchen or decor.. and for the “door prize” i’d like them to bring in items that can be donated to the local animal shelter [toys, food, ect].

    Not sure if you guys do door prizes, but around here whether it be bridal or baby shower, guests are asked to bring in a door gift, and each person who does is given a ticket – later a prize is drawn and the winner gets a door prize.

    Post # 10
    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would be so jealous! That sounds like an awesome shower!  I say bring it up with the host to see what she thinks about the theme shower.

    Post # 11
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    It sounds like a lot of fun!  If your aunt loves Christmas, I bet she would love this idea.  You might want to ask your mom to talk to her and try to find out if your aunt had her heart set on a theme already.  If she doesn’t have her heart set on something, I bet she would love this suggestion.


    Post # 12
    3588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @MexiPino:  When I read the title o fyour thread I rolled my eyes thinking “here’s antoher self-centered bride” but now, having read the entire thing–I think your request is appropriate.

    It is very cool that your family collects all of this Christmas stuff and you want to join that family tradition! I would think that your aunts and uncles and cousins would LOVE to buy the Christmas stuff!

    When will the shower be held? Will Christmas stuff still be in the stores?

    Post # 13
    1979 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @FauxPas2012:  That’s what I was wondering too!

    OP, I think it’s fine to request the theme, but when is the shower? It may be hard for your guests to buy you Christmas decor in July. But if they knew about it now, they could buy in advance!

    Post # 14
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Since your family’s so into it, I see nothing wrong with asking the hostess for that shower about having a Christmas theme.

    Is your cousin into the Christmas craziness as well?  I’d check with her before making it a tradition, just in case. 🙂

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