Post # 1
I have a bit of a problem. My fiance has a huge circle of friends, and is struggling to narrow down for a bridal party. I, on the other hand, have lacked a solid group of friends since high school. I have asked my sister (also my best friend), and a good friend from high school, with whom I have kept in pretty good touch. We’re trying to compromise for a middle number, probably around 3 or 4, but I’m seriously struggling finding any more. The wedding is just under 6 months away, and I know it’s already past the time to ask, but we’ve been struggling with it for months and still haven’t come to any conclusions. I’ve always hated asking favors of people, especially from people I’m not particularly close with. This is partially meant as a means to vent, but if you have any suggestions, I would appreciate them greatly, too!
Post # 3
i’m the same way – no real social group since high school. does he have any sisters or do you have any cousins you’re close too? if not then you could always have your girls escorted by 2 guys.
Post # 4
The wedding party doesn’t have to be even, and it wont even look funny if its not. You could have 2 and 4 and it would look perfectly fine 🙂
Post # 5
I have one cousin I’m somewhat close to, but she’s getting married about a month after me, so I’d hate to burden her! And fiance has a step-sister, but he’s not really too close with her and has mentioned it might be a little weird to ask her. I guess that’s true that we could do an uneven party… I’m just a little obsessed with symmetry. 🙁 That may have to work, though!
elliestan, who did you ask?
Post # 6
I really don’t have any close female friends either. I chose my aunt as my matron of honor (she’s only 8 years older than me and we get along really well), my fiance’s sister and my fiance’s best friend’s wife. While we’ve agreed on three attendants on each side, I have a feeling my fiance may have a hard time deciding on his third and end up going with four. In which case, I’ll likely just pick another of his friend’s wives that I get along with.
I personally don’t really see asking someone to be in your bridal party as asking a favor. In my experience, people are usually really touched and flattered to be asked.
Post # 7
My husband grew up in a small town and chose his closest friends that he had known since kindergarten. He had 6 on his side and I had 2 on mine. I was completely okay with that. I wanted people I was really close to standing up with me and I did!
Post # 8
I had the same problem!! My Fiance originally had his Bridesmaid or Best Man and 3 Groomsmen now we have the Bridesmaid or Best Man and 5 Groomsmen. My cousin is my Maid/Matron of Honor and our friend who is also one of the GM’s Fiance. My Fiance was very against the idea of having uneven sides and then when he added the other 2 Groomsmen I told him he needed to stop and there was no way we were going to have even sides. One of his cousins is a Groomsmen so we asked his Girlfriend to be a bridesmaid and his other cousin is also going to be a bridesmaid. So there will be 4 on my side, 6 on his and he is just going to have to deal with it!!! I feel your pain, it took probably 8 months to get him to agree to uneven sides.
Post # 9
@Lorge28: Its okay to have uneven numbers on each side. the Bridesmaid or Best Man can have two guys escort them down etc.
Or if it really bothers you you could ask you husband to just have a Best Man and you can have a mMOH, that way he isnt really selecting some groomsmen…he could just say you are keeping it small????
Post # 10
@Lorge28: your cousin may not mind, if you make it clear that you don’t expect her to do a bunch of crazy duties or anything – after all you’re family! My fiance wants to ask 5 guys so I’ve asked my cousin to be Maid/Matron of Honor (even though she lives across the country), my brother’s soon-to-be fiance, a friend from middle school that i’ve kept contact with and that’s it so far. i have a girl that i was friends with in high school that wants to be Maid/Matron of Honor but we’re not close anymore and she’s flakey so i’m not sure about her. i could also ask my FH’s stepsisters, it sounds like he’s closer to them that your FH is to his, but it still may be weird since they’re like 15 years older than me and i’m only close with one of them. I also have a friend from college that knows us both and she’s flying in from Singapore for the wedding and we were planning on having her as a reader, but if I needed another girl I’m sure I could ask her. Undecided!