Post # 1
So I know the whole tradition of the bride standing on the left has something to do with the groom having easy access to his weapon or something, and to this day most brides follow that tradition to the best of my knowledge. I’m wondering if it’s a big deal if I switch it… I have a weird space in my teeth on my right side, and my bangs are parted on my right, so it’s not my good side. And my FH has a birthmark on his head on the left side where no hair grows, so if we followed tradition, photos of our ceremony would be of both our bad sides haha.
I know it sounds kinda dumb “good side” for photos and what not, but I wanted to see what people thought, if that would be acceptable?? It’s a pretty casual wedding, set outdoors in a garden and we aren’t having our guests sit on a particular side, it will all be mixed. What do you think???
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone would notice/care. While I might notice, I wouldn’t think it was odd or anything, because everyone does things differently. I’d probably be more focused on if there were more Bridesmaid or Best Man than Groomsmen, but just as an OCD thing, haha.
Do whatever it is you want!
Post # 4
I don’t think anyone cares although you might want to spread word through your family so they sit on the right side if you’re into that thing.
Post # 5
I don’t think your reasons are dumb at all.
If it were a religious tradition, and you were having a religious ceremony, I think then and only then people would notice/care.
Go for it, shake things up a bit!
Post # 6
I’ve never even thought about this, but I love you for bringing this to my attention! I have a bad side, too. I have a bit of a crooked tooth on the right side of my mouth. Whenever I have taken photos and stood on the “wrong” side I always notice it and cringe.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone for the votes! Looks like its not as big of a deal as I thought it was! Hopefully my parents and grandparents agree…
Post # 8
I don’t think your reasons are dumb.
I also don’ think anyone will notice.
Post # 9
I would definitely notice, but it would be like, “Oh, opposite sides? Okay.” I have an odd tooth too, but it’s on my left side.
Post # 10
You could always have your photographer shoot from behind your officiant. That way your photos will be of both your good sides, and your photos will have your friends and family in the background, rather than empty space or just your officiant.
Post # 11
I almost always stand/sit/walk on the right of my OH. But for our wedding I will stick with tradition for the ceremony (although I expect I’ll switch sides for the photos afterwards!). Do what feels best for you.
Post # 12
I think this varies by culture/faith. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding with a lot of Jewish customs where the bride and bridesmaids were on the right.
Post # 13
So funny, your reasons for wanting to stand on the right side are also my reasons lol. I have a gap in my teeth on my right side & frankly that side of my face just isn’t quite as pretty IMO.
Unfortunately I think I will be standing on the left for tradition’s sake. I would usually say it doesn’t matter, but my family is very patriarchal & traditional in some ways, so I just don’t feel like trying to explain it.
Btw, I would notice, & I think most people would too. I think you have to decide if that will bother you.
Post # 14
In the Jewish tradition, the bride stands on the right. If you’re not having a religious ceremony, there is no more reason for you to follow the Christian tradition than the Jewish one in this regard. And if you are, then it’s up to your officiant.