Post # 1
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Helper bee
I don’t know if you remember a post I made a few months earlier about not wanting to go to a “friend’s” wedding. Well the wedding happened yesterday and a friend went with her Fiance. She said that at the end of the ceremony just when the bride was getting into the car to leave, she started telling her how great she looked. Right then and there, the bride told her that her Fiance could not go to reception, they only had space for one even though that was not previously stipulated. My friend said she just turned around, grabbed her Fiance and left. She was sooo upset that as soon as she got a chance, she called me to tell me. I tried to calm her down to no avail.
Boy I know the bride and groom were cold but doing something like that is just…I dnt even know the word to use to describe what they did. I’m glad I didn’t go.
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
MrsToBeeMgn: Did the invitation say that this girl’s Fiance invited? And did she RSVP for 2? I’m having trouble understanding why this wasn’t dealt with before the wedding.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
aussiemum1248: Yes, the bride even further stated that both were invited via phone. They worked together up until abot a month ago so if there were any changes she could’ve said it or even called
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
MrsToBeeMgn: Wow, I have no words…
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
Wooooooooow. Talk about terrible etiquette.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
Wow. Classy. I would have said, ‘Well, I guess there’s no room for our gift to you either’.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
That is crazy, and I would have done the exact same thing as the guest. Yikes.
Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
Yeesh, that’s pretty awful.
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
Geeze I hope the friend not only grabbed her Fiance but her gift. How on earth during your day do you remember to say that to someone? Holy cow.
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
Unless there’s more to the story, this makes no sense. I would have left, too. What, did they have extra guests show up last minute and the bride decided the Fiance is the one who had to go to make room? I guess that friendship is over.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Well that was rude.
Unless there are very specific and strict restrictions by the venue (which I know happens a lot), I don’t know why brides get so uptight about an extra guest here or there. Our venue could hold a few more than we had RSVP and we knew some people from my husband’s extended family might show up unannounced, so we purposely had an extra few seats and meals available. We made sure that we could fit that into our budget just in case. Glad we did becauase it happened. I wasn’t mad – I was glad they made it! What fun it was to dance with a cousin I hadn’t met before that day!
It would be different if I absolutely couldn’t fit them in. If I knew space or whatever was going to be an issue I’d probably have clarified expectations with everyone before the wedding (‘”are you coming or not, because I’m afraid for fire safety reasons the venue won’t let you in if we’re over 99 people” or “I wish he could come but the venue absolutely will not allow more than 99 people and I’d hate for you to be turned away.”)
If this was just about the bride deciding she didn’t like the friend or her fiance, the wedding was a bad time to deal with it.
Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
It seems like there is something missing from your post. If that’s really how it happened, the bride sounds super rude.
But, being that the bride told her they were invited over the phone [not via rsvp], it makes me wonder if the bride thought she was talking to someone else.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Update: She spoke to the bride explaining that she did not appreciate what she did. The bride apologized and told her all sorts of stories and how sorry she was. I told her I don’t believe the bride was telling the truth but that I was happy they made up. So they are good now.
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
MrsToBeeMgn: What kind of stories? Not that there could be any justification. Your friend is very forgiving.
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