- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
So I have this friend that just got engaged and now believes that the entire next year is HER year.
She’s the kind of girl that’s all “ME ME ME”. When it’s her birthday, the whole week/month/season is all about her and her b-day. When we were in highschool, she didn’t speak to me for a month because I wore a pink dress to the homecoming dance… Because SHE was wearing a pink dress… I had no clue.
When you’re young, you don’t notice these things, but as you get older, the sense of entitlement that people have can be really obnoxious and irritating. So even though we’ve been friends since childhood, as I got older I began to distance myself because I just didn’t feel like she could relate to anything in my life.
That being said, we have always maintained a great relationship and we were both equally thrilled for eachother when the other got engaged. She told me she couldn’t wait to come to my wedding, asked me all the details, made plans to get together before, etc….
So I sent out STD’s for my DW and 2 months later she ended up getting engaged to her long-time SO. I was genuinely happy for her!!!
We got together shortly after her engagement and she told me that even though she really wanted to come to our wedding, now that she was engaged, she didn’t know how she was going to make it work because she was so overwhelmed with planning.
NOTE: Her wedding date is 8 months after mine and she and her FI come from extremely wealthy families. So this is not a timing/money issue.
Also, this particular bride and I were part of a small group of girlfriends. There were 5 of us, one of whom I remain best friends with to this day. All 4 of these girls are invited to my wedding as they are my only hometown childhood friends.
Well I found out from my BFF that the Bride asked all of them to be BMs in her wedding (except for me) and has already started planning a very expensive bachelorette weekend across the country a month after my wedding! BFF told her that she could not commit to being a bridesmaid or so much travel back and forth because of my wedding…
I guess the Bride did not like this and I feel like she has somehow turned the other girls against me and my wedding. BFF told me that none of the other girls will be coming to my wedding because now they’re BM’s in her wedding, and she has expectations for the whole next year.
I know that my wedding will be wonderful with or without these girls. The one I care about most is my BFF and she has told me that she wouldn’t miss my wedding for anything in the world. But I have to say – I am so sick of this entitled attitude that now she gets a whole year dedicated to her because it’s the whole year leading up to her wedding. That my friends would basically have to choose between coming to my wedding or attending her extravagant engagement party/bachelorette party/bridal shower/pretty princess parties.
I really did want her and the other girls to come to my wedding. They’ve been my friends forever and I always thought we would share these special moments like getting married and having babies… and now that she’s engaged it’s like she doesn’t give a shit about anyone but herself.
Has anyone else encountered this ridiculous entitled attitude? Why do weddings turn people into such self absorbed a-holes. Not saying all brides are like this (because I’m not!)… but seriously… I just want to tell her to GET OVER HERSELF!
I’m not really looking for advice. Sorry this was so long. I really just needed to vent and get it all off my chest because it is really bothering me!!!!