- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
I was caught a little off guard by the bride to be last night….wondering if any of you could shed some light on things.
I planned a little soirée last night for the bridesmaids to get together and have some fun and toast the bride. Well, only two of the six of us showed, but the bride seemed tickled none-the-less. I gave her a white tote bag that said here comes the bride on it in crystals. it had all kinds of fun stuff In it, even a little veil, she really loved all of that too.
Then she starts talking about the wedding, and mentions that she really wants my step-son to attend, my stepson is a very troubled young man who does not live with us, he steals, lies and can be very sneaky, there’s also a history of violence and threats, and frankly I do not think having him loose in a 250 person wedding is a good idea at all. I didn’t really say anything but I know I looked a little shocked to say the least, especially since she was so adamant about it when she hasn’t seen him in two years…..Well she took one look at my face and snaps, “I’m the bride and it’s my day!”. I didn’t want to fight about it, he’s my son, if I feel he could attend I certainly would bring him, but if I feel it would be a bad thing, I won’t. She starts telling me he’s just misunderstood and that I don’t give him enough credit, the fact is there’s quite a lot she is unaware of about him because that’s family business and it’s not something I would share.
We actually managed to get past the step-son debacle,thank god for wine, but later on at dinner, her fiancé joined us for the meal and the entire time she was bossing him around….the final straw, she demands that he walk across the parking lot to get cigarettes for her and my sister in law who works at the restaurant….he kept telling her he didn’t want to, he doesn’t smoke, wants her to quit and she can get her own cigarettes… well, you can guess what happened, “I’m the bride!”. And off he goes to fetch some coffin nails.
The thing is that this behavior is so uncharacteristic of her, she’s always been a wonderful, kind person and now, I’m being held hostage by a wedding that’s over a year away with her unsuspected fiancé. She’s just been engaged, is this a phase? Or am I looking down the barrel of a very long year? Would say anything or do I justo have to ride this out?