(Closed) Bride to be question

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

I felt different because of the way people treat you.  You’re no longer a girlfriend.. or a fiance… you’re a wife!  i found myself getting invited to more of Mr. Bee’s business functions after we were married.

Some couples that lived together for years before getting married tell me that it feels the same.  I ask this question often, and find that women feel more different than men after they get married. I guess it depends on the person, but I definitely, definitely felt different.  In a good way. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

My husband and I were married about a month and a half ago, but had been living together for 3 years (with a joint bank account!).  For me, our daily lives didn’t change – we’ve felt like a team since we moved in together and merged bank accounts, but now I feel MUCH more responsibility to make sure that we’re really planning for our future and making sure that we had a plan for homebuying and baby making 🙂 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)

It changed for us. I dont really know how to explain it but basically… since the whole marraige thing… its like official. And there is less worry about the little things… and working on our future is our main priority.

 I’ve been living with Mr.Flamingo for 4 1/2 years now (we’ve been togehter 5 yrs) and obviously there was some adapting to do… but its really weird because being married now (6 months) changed the way we look at eachother, talk to eachother and love eachother.

All for the better…. I love being married 🙂

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - Majestic Colonial Resort, Punta Cana

One of the reasons I was sort of reluctant to move in together pre-wedding was b/c I was sooo wanted it to feel ‘different’ afterwards. But we ended up living together for 2 years before the wedding… and guess what? It DOES feel different! The husband-wife jokes we crack are hilarious. And joking about being on Team Seabreeze is so fun.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I have been married for 2 months and 1 day and it is soo different!! All for the better. It is very hard describe how it is different. I agree with flamingo it is different in the way you love each other, look at eachother and talk to each other. I LOVE being married!!! Oh and we only lived together for 2 weeks before the wedding so we had that change as well but I would have not done it differently for us it worked for us!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

Ditto Mrs. Bee… it’s how people treat you that is the big change.  Mr. Peng and I are sleeping in the same bed for the first time at home this christmas (even though we’ve lived together for 3 years before marriage!)  That part is kind of funny… the awkwardness of the "uncertainty" vanishes.  Sweet and nice gestures make me fall deeper in love with my husband than they would have before we got married.  I feel like now that when he does nice things for me (which of course, he does all the time) I know he just does it for no reason other than love for me… there’s no "oh, he does it to impress me," or anything like that.  You just feel the pure love of nice gestures coming from your spouse.  Does that make sense?  Like there is no reason left to try to "impress" me as his wife, yet when your husband keeps going out of his way to please you, or does something totally unselfishly, it makes me feel really really loved as a wife.

 For the first time in a while, I feel very content.  I’m not looking to take "the next big step"… it’s always been one thing after another… be my steady boyfriend, move in with me, ask me to marry you, set a date… it seems like i’ve lived in a world of wants.  For one moment in time, I want nothing more than to just exist as we are.  It’s very VERY awesome!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We’ve definitley fallen even deeper in love and have discovered a new kind of closeness in the 3 months we’ve been married.  I love being married (as cheesy as that sounds!) 

 Some things have not changed at all and the "sameness" every once in a while makes us say "hey- we got married?"  All in all, I think its the perfect combination of change and consistancy.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

On the surface, friends and I alike who lived together before marriage said it felt the same. But there was definitely something different. You’re suddenly elevated a notch in social circles and how people perceive you. Little girl vs. Wife/Adult woman. In other ways, there was a feeling of permanance and we had to consider the REAL future. Not, oh how many kids are we going to have. But how will be plan OUR retirement, what happens if one of us dies, etc.

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