(Closed) Bride to Pay for BM’s Hair?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should the bride pay for the bridesmaids hair (if she is requesting that it be done)?
    yes : (34 votes)
    62 %
    no : (8 votes)
    15 %
    it depends : (13 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We are having a destination wedding, so costs of our bridal party are higher anyway, so because of this, we are paying for the hair/makeup. I offered this to them, they didnt ask, but mostly thats because I want to ensure their hair and makeup look good and uniform. 

    I think technically it should be part of their expense, but I think its a very nice thing to have the bride take care of it for them.

    Post # 4
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Generally, it is common to pay for your bridesmaids to get their hair and make-up done if you are asking them to get it done professionally.

    Post # 5
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    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    In order to not be held responsible for hair/makeup, I would suggest you tell them how you would like them to do their own hair that day. If they can’t do it then they can pay for it to be professionally done. Hopefully it wont be super complicated. Or maybe they can help each other out.

    Post # 6
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you are requiring it, you should pay. If you give them the option, they should pay.

    Post # 7
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    380 posts
    Helper bee

    I suppose it technically could be considered an expense to be a part of the bridal party, but I think it’s kind of selfish to make pro-styled hair mandatory and not pay for it (because it’s not really absolutely necessary).  Kind of falls along the same lines of making someone pay for a ridiculously expensive bridesmaid dress – could be rationalized if you think everyone must bend to your will, but still kind of jerk-y.

    I voted ‘yes’, but I suppose everything in life ‘depends’.  Maybe if your mandatory salon was like, super-cheap.

    I asked mine if they wanted hair and/or makeup done by a pro, and if they did, that I would cover it.  Of course, mine already have a lot of expenese since it’s an out-of-town wedding.

    Post # 8
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    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    my plan is to ask each member of our party to decide the max amount they can afford all together. if we find a dress that is well under that, i will poll them and see if they would rather get new shoes, wear their own, get nails or hair done or do their own etc. majority rules. i trust my girls to want to look good for the wedding so if they dont trust their own beautification ability then they will ask for help or get it done professionally. i wouldnt require it.

    if i were a bridesmaid, i would plan to pay for my own hair if the majority of the group wanted to get hair done together. if the bride was requiring it (i doubt any of my friends would be so bridezillaish) then i would find out if she was paying, if not, i would find the most affordable option and go with that, or just chose a hairstyle i can confidently do myself.

    Post # 9
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yes of course. You want them to have their hair done, you should pay. They’re doing a lot for you, IMO.

    Post # 10
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    The bride should absolutely pay if she’s requiring her bridesmaids to have professional hair and makeup.

    Post # 11
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    259 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it depends if it’s part of their gift or not. I think traditionally it’s expected that BMs pay for their dresses, shoes, hair, and makeup.

     

    However, I told my girls I’d be paying for their hair as part of their gifts, to help offset their costs a little.

     

    Hope that helps!

    Either way, just make sure your girls know what they’re responsible for and what they’re not.

    Post # 12
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If it is something required then you should pay for it. However I was in a wedding where we were required to get our hair done by the hairdresser the bride had chosen and she did not pay for our hair, everyone paid but it created a little bit of tension.

    Post # 13
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think if you require them to get their hair done you should pay.

    Post # 14
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Just pay, unless you are already completely financially drained. I was in a wedding where I had to pay for everything, dress, shoes, hair & nails. The hair & nails that the bride wanted kinda threw everyone in a nasty mood because they were tired of spending money on her wedding after two showers, a bachelorette party, dress, shoes….the list goes on and on. Then I was in a wedding where all I was responsible for were my shoes, it was amazing. I have always thought the bride should pay for the hair.

     

    Post # 15
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I think it would be “nice to do” but if you cannot afford, it’s not necessary.  I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man ten times and each time either did my hair myself (no professional styling) or else paid for the styling myself.  Of course, if you are not going to pay for the hair styling, then you cannot demand the BMs get their hair professionally styled or that they wear their hair in some complicated manner that they can’t do themselves. 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you are requiring it then you should pay. I gave my girls the option and all of them ended up wanting to anyways, but if one didnt I really wouldn’t have cared!

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