(Closed) Bride without a bridal shower…

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How should I proceed
    Plan and pay for my own bridal shower : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Ask my mom to plan and host with help from my bridesmaids : (17 votes)
    65 %
    Nix the bridal shower totally : (8 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    1565 posts
    Bumble bee

    I am also curious…no one is throwing me a shower so not sure what to do. I don’t even want gifts, just getting together with people. 

    Post # 4
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I just went through something similar with my bridesmaids.  They are lacking in funds and time to plan.  So I asked them if they could host the shower (I would have asked my mom if they said no), I would help plan, we all could make two dishes to pass and schedule it between lunch and dinner so cut a full-meal cost.

    So it will cost about $50 each ($250 total or so), will be simple and in a park lodge.  I wanted something cozy and at home but this will be close enough.   Maybe you could do something like this?  I think you are only a bride wonce so enjoy as many aspects as you can!!

    Post # 5
    14185 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well, in my experience and in our families, the bridesmaids throw one and then the Future Mother-In-Law throws the other one for the other side of the famiy. I have often seen them cohosted with the mothers of the bride and also done separately. She probably thinks that because you have a large family she wanted to do a “family shower” also. Baby showers can often be done this way, too. I don’t think she’s necessarily being presumptuous about the shower, though.She probably just doesn’t know any better and thinks your mom would do it.

    Why don’t you just telll her your mom isn’t throwing you one? Or do you think yoru mom would be willing to cohost it and pick up, say, the cake? You could just have your mom contact your Maid/Matron of Honor and plan it together. My mom was pretty excited about throwing the shower and helping out. Even if it was just to supply cake or the punch or something?

    Remind her it doesn’t have to be fancy. How many people would you think? You could do desserts and punch or tea and open gifts at your house. We had chicken salad, chips, and junk food at mine. It was definitely not high class or anything! They kicked me out of my own house for an hour and when i came back we all sat around my living room and had fun. Pretty casual and inexpensive (my Maid/Matron of Honor was still in college, no job).

    Wrangle those 6 bridesmaids together; surely they can pull together something low key for you.

    Post # 7
    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would ask mom to do the footwork, but ask the BMs to putluck or bring wine. It won’t be the awesomest, most creative shower in the world, but you’ll be happy with the experience, and it is totally not overbearing to ask for a potluck.

    Post # 8
    46 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    im curious about this too.. all my Bridesmaid or Best Man are out of town and they are already flying in twice to throw my bachelorette party & then wedding.  So i can’t expect them to throw me a bridal/couples shower.

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