Bridemaid Troubles! Help!!!

posted 6 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

You’re concerned that your bridesmaids aren’t forgiving you for not meeting your fiancé sooner? You yourself said one had a work obligation so why do you feel as though you are losing that friendship?

If you feel strongly about this then have your remaining two girls meet him via Skype or something along those lines. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

In 7 years they’ve never met him? That seems really odd to me if you truly do consider them like your family. Was it not important to you for them to know him at all? 

My best friends are all scattered all over the country too. It was SO SO important to me for them to meet my husband before we even became engaged. I wanted them to like him and for him to like them as well. Now we all take trips together and travel to see each other. They’re all friends! 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

bellaharrison :  Could this be their way of expressing that they’re concerned for you, or that they aren’t as sure as you that he’s the right guy? I have no way of knowing, but it’s one possibility. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

bellaharrison :  Honestly I think they are concerned about your relationship. You said you have broken up a few times, you talk about soul mates and they have never met the guy. Honestly it would be a red flag for me as a friend.

One of my closest friends lives in Sweden whilst I live in Australia. When we both got serious about our partners we introduced them via skype. Her and her partner skyped into our engagement party and vice versa plus we both made the effort to organise a time to meet.

I am guessing they are either concerned for you or feel like there isn’t much of friendship if they have never been introduced to your partner of 7 years.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Yeah, I’m with the others here thinking this is probably less about them being mad at you and more them being concerned / unsure about your decision to marry this guy. I would definitely have some concerns if one of my best friends was about to marry a guy she had broken up with multiple times and who I’d never met once in 7 years… 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I think it’s extremely odd that none of your 3 bffs have met your fiancé at any point in the last 7 years. Were you never in your hometown at the same time? Or not invited to any mutual friends’ weddings? Or made plans to meet up for a weekend trip? Was he never home during your monthly Skype dates? 

 

I literally cannot imagine dating someone for 7 years and not one of my besties having met my SO. It’s REALLY weird if your friendship is as close as you think it is. 

Post # 9
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590 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

bellaharrison :  I feel that if you are as close to these girls as you say you are, at some point in 7 years they would have met him.  I feel ‘an instinct’ or possibility that this is a bad relationship or there are reasons you didn’t let them meet him. What are the reasons you broke up twice and how long were you apart each time? 

Post # 10
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640 posts
Busy bee

7 YEARS?! My best friend from high school has been with her boyfriend for about 10 months and I met him the other day. We don’t live far from each other so she could have made the effort to introduce us sooner but tbh we’re not bridesmaid status close so it’s whatver but it did confirm that we weren’t as close as we used to be so maybe your friends do feel a little slighted. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

To be honest I would find it a little worrying if I hadn’t met my best friend’s fiancé in the entire 7 years the had been together.

How has this never happened? 

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