- 8 years ago
I just want to get some opinions on how to handle this situation:
I have a friend who I met in high school; we have a friend in common that was “her” college roommate. She introduced us back in 2003, the friend in common is not like my best friends but we get along well, we like each other, but we have not spent a lot of time together. We usually get together when I’m in town. All of us live in different states.
Fast forward…. My high school friend and I got into a huge fight before I got engaged about my pending engagement and are no longer friends. Once I became engaged I went back and forth because I wanted to ask the friend we “have in common” to be a bridesmaid as my plan was originally for it to be all of us. I decided that I wanted to ask her so I did.
I am now in the process of transferring jobs and moving back to the state the friend in common lives in as well as my Fiance. We have exchanged texts about hanging out she has sent me well wishes on my engagement. NEITHER of us has ever brought up the fact our other friend does not speak with me anymore …. Should this be a conversation we should have?
I’m not certain if I should bring it up or not but I’ve been wondering if I caught her off guard by asking her to be in my wedding because I don’t want her to be in the middle of anything but so far it doesn’t seem to be a problem but right now we don’t live in the same state or hang out…I guess I’m nervous about what to say if she mentions my ex- friend once we are around each other… do I keep pretending nothing’s wrong… I guess I just want to know if anyone’s had a similar issue and how to avoid drama as I move forward….