(Closed) Bridemaids and Tattoos..

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

what’s makes you think they are going to?

i personally don;t think you have the right to tell them to get tattoos or not. especially since your wedding is so far away.  if your wedding was like in 2 weeks and one Bridesmaid or Best Man wanted to get a snake going down her arm, i could see asking her to wait.

but in general, i don’t think you can tell anyone they need your permission for such things.

EDIT: i realized you asked is it wrong for you for to WANT them to ask you – no, its not wrong to want it, but i don’t think you can have it!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As a heavily tattooed person I’d be a little irritated. I feel like if someone is asked to be a bridesmaids that the bride accepts that person no matter what, tattoo or no tattoo.

I don’t think they should have to ASK you to do anything, they are adults. But you could politely bring up the topic to them and discuss whatever your concerns may be and let them make their decision from there.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s a bit bridezilla. I would tell them that you have a set vision and if they get a tattoo then they will have to get a shawl. I wouldn’t ask them to avoid getting them. Of course I’m biased, but I don’t see the big deal either way. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, your bridesmaids should not have to ask your permission to get a tattoo. With that said, I don’t like tattoos so if my bridesmaids had unsightly ink that would be visible in pictures, I would kindly ask for the tattoos to be covered. 

ETA: 2/3 of my bridesmaids have tattoos but they are small (like on their feet) or in other places that would not be visible. I have no problems with these. It’s the sleeve or whole back tattoo that I wouldn’t want in my pictures. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

IMO Uhhh…yes thats wrong. Its their bodies…you can ask them what dress to wear and how to do their hair etc, but I think a tattoo is their own decision and they should be able to do what they want.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think that would be kind of rude to ask of your bridesmaids.  Remember that getting a tattoo is a personal choice–it’s her body and she can do what she wants to it.  Her life does not revolve around your wedding, and she should not have to ask permission to do as she pleases just because you are getting married.

But if having visible tattoos at your wedding or in your photos bothers you, you can always ask her to cover it up with a shawl or theater makeup.  I believe there are some other posts on here discussing ways of covering tattoos effectively.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes,it is wrong. You asked them bacause they are important to you, would that change if they got a tatoo?

Also, if it really bothered you they could wear shawls or you could photshop pictures. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have to agree with the PP. That’s a little much to ask them to do that. As brides we have to remember that our wedding is just not as big of a deal to other people. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, being the bride doesn’t give you control over their lives before the wedding.  I understand if you don’t want visible tattoos in your photos, but that’s what photoshop/makeup/coverups are for.  Tattoos typically have some form of meaning to the people who get them, and it’s not up to anyone but themselves to decide when it’s appropriate for them to have one done.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think that’s appropriate. To me, it’s along the same lines of asking your bridesmaids not to get their hair cut/dyed/permed, not to gain/lose weight, not to go skiing because they might break a leg and be on crutches, etc. etc. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

@slmaynard: for some reason i thought it was march 2012 when i said that. ok, i understand where you are coming from. hmmm, i guess you can do like Miss Tattoo said and let her know that you wouldn’t want tattoos visible in the pictures, so she would have to cover them or wait to get it.  but the ultimate decision is hers and you have to be really sweet and tactful when you say it.

she just might not have considered it because it is 3 months away. not long for you, but she may not be thinking about being a Bridesmaid or Best Man as much as you are thinking about being a bride – i know that’s how it is with me and my BMs!

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

@JennyW1: i agree to an extent – but what if a Bridesmaid or Best Man wanted to shave her head or dye her hair pink!  i don’t think its a black and white issue. and it depends on how extreme it is what they want, how far it is to the wedding, and how reasonable it is to wait – like would it really affect them?

although i don’t think asking someone to lose weight or refrain from activities because of potential injury fits into this category. i am just thinking more along the lines of hair/tattoos i guess.  i mean, anyone can break their leg, skiing or not in many other ways.

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