Post # 1
Okay so here is the deal,
I’m getting hitched to my dream guy July 28th this upcoming year. I have asked six ladies to stand up for me(including my Maid/Matron of Honor.) I wanted to get going on their dress shopping in a month or two so that I have plenty of time to coordinate shoes/accessories.
My goal was to get all the girls together bc such different body types(typical story.)All of my bridesmaids have been super flexible and was excited for an overnight trip to dress hunt.
However…my Maid/Matron of Honor literally refuses to be available unitl the first weekend in Feb and insisits that I am overreacting. She thinks Feb will be plenty of time and tells me to chill out.
What do you guys think? Realistically, how long do I need to give for dresses to come in?
Thanks for your advice!
Post # 3
my Maid/Matron of Honor literally refuses to be available unitl the first weekend in Feb
maybe she is not available (i have schedules like this, i can tell you 12mths in advance that im not available months at a time) and you will have to work around that – can you do a shopping trip without her and keep her in the communication loop
how long will the dresses take to be made – 5mths seems ok
Post # 4
my girls got their dresses from David’s bridal. They ordered them in September, and are due in December. I think 5 months would be plenty.
Post # 5
It can depend on a lot of factors. The biggest one is of course where you are ordering from, if you’re doing a higher end designer they may take longer since they may be made specifically for you. For larger stores and places like David’s stock is the biggest issue–popularity of the size and color and where they are in their production calendar.
My BM’s ordered from DB’s and one got her dress in like 2 weeks! Another waited longer to order and ended up having to get the next size up and pay for alterations because they couldn’t get her size in in time, that was 7 weeks before the wedding.
Realistically your Maid/Matron of Honor is right that for a July wedding Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping in Feb should be perfectly fine. I don’t know any designer who woudn’t be able to get a dress in 5 months. If you’re really anxious about it then go without her with some of your other girls to just get an idea, if she doesn’t want to give her opinion from the get go it’s her loss I guess.
Post # 6
Me and my girls went to davids bridal and ordered the dresses, only takes about 3 months for them to come in..when i went i had all but one of the girls with me, it was hard but the girl who didnt come said whatever we all decided on she would go with, of course i felt horrible cause she couldnt be there..her work schedule is crazy..i did end up ordering hers when we all placed the orders, i showed he while we were there and she loved it too =) Good luck!
Post # 7
I agree you have PLENTY of time if you look in Feb, but why does she want to wait? Is she just refusing, or is she busy?
Post # 8
Thanks Ladies, I will try to relax 🙂
Post # 9
i would go without her and send her pics of what you find. come february, you might have other girls who are not available. so if you have 5/6 now, i say take it! as long as your Maid/Matron of Honor is not too difficult about which dress she will wear, it should be ok.
Post # 10
I was told it takes 4 months for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses to come in where I ordered from. 3 of my 4 BMs are out of town, so it was hard to coordinate schedules. I had 3 of them in town 1 weekend and the 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man tried on a bunch of dresses for me the week prior so I knew she loved my top choice. She gave me her measurements and her credit card over the phone in the store and it worked out just fine with 1 girl missing. The dresses will be done in plenty of time for my March wedding (we ordered about 3 weeks ago).
Post # 11
Just keep in mind that some dresses do take 6 months and if it needs to be rushed it will be an extra cost i was trying to get my dresses 4 months out and it took the price up from $129.00 to $98.00 per dress.. But honestly I would say go without her…then if the dress you chose works on her great… but if not it is always completely exceptable to put her in a different gown from the other ladies since she is the Maid/Matron of Honor
Post # 12
I figured out a solution, I am having dresses made by a seller on Etsy.
She just needs measurements and then everyone can go on their own time. I will request that they sent measurements and deposits by Dec 1.
Then in Feb when everyone is available we can go shoe shopping 🙂
Hooray for comprimise!