(Closed) BRIDEMAIDS PROBLEMS HELP!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

This doesn’t really sound like that big a problem, just seems like she is trying to plan her budget.

Let her know this weekend is to look for your dress but she can also get some ideas of what Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses cost. Maybe ask her what she’d be comfortable paying (ask the other girls this as well) and then try to work within their budget.

Honestly it just sounds like she wants to make sure she has enough tie to put awa money for the dress and is looking for a general idea of cost to be prepared.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Have you discussed budget with the girls? Davids Bridal has a pretty good selection and it’s possible to find a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for under $100.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The most important thing right now is to explain to her that Saturdays event is just for you. Otherwise, she might end up really disappointed. Then I would meet up with all the bridesmaids, talk about your vision, their wishes and constraints, and take it from there. If you’re not paying for their dresses I think it’s vital to get their input unless you want to end up with a set of very upset girls.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

This doesn’t really sound like that big a problem, just seems like she is trying to plan her budget.

Let her know this weekend is to look for your dress but she can also get some ideas of what Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses cost. Maybe ask her what she’d be comfortable paying (ask the other girls this as well) and then try to work within their budget.

Honestly it just sounds like she wants to make sure she has enough tie to put awa money for the dress and is looking for a general idea of cost to be prepared.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would discuss it with all of them soon so even with a tight budget they can start saving. When i was broke as a joke, if people told me in advance to save for something I did but the sooner they tell you the better.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree, this doesn’t sound like a problem at all.  First thing you need to do is let her know that Saturday is just for you and that you plan to go Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping in a month or so.  Then you should ask her and the rest of your BMs what their budgets are (this should be done privately so as not to make any girl uncomfortable).  Once you have the budgets, you can find a dress within them.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@jenrawson21:  Most dresses at DB are about 100-150$, so a reasonable price. Let her know that once you find a dress you girls will all start looking for bridesmaid dresses and that you want to make sure they don’t spend too much on them

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

@KatNYC2011:  +1.  

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jenrawson21:  I would explain that you wont be doing bridesmaids dresses this weekend to take some of the pressure off her.  If you are planning on doing bridesmaid gifts, maybe you could offer to help her pay for her dress (whatever you would spend on the Bridesmaid or Best Man gift) instead of a traditional Bridesmaid or Best Man gift?  Just an idea…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble

@jenrawson21:  LOL I don’t like sports, but cute avatar 🙂

I don’t think you should have to bring it up just yet. I’d let her know they are just looking, but you are doing your dress right now, so you can get it ordered and altered, etc.

Also, your girls get $20 off their dresses if you order yours there, AND the layaway is only 2 months, BUT you can put 10% down, or at least $20. So if the girls chose dresses, they’ll get their discount, and the layaway.

I don’t think you’ll have a huge issue. But, if you do fall in love with a dress out of her or other girls $ league, maybe finish the purchase for them? I mean, if it’s an extra $25-30, nothing extravagant.

She’s probably thinking she has to have $ this VERY weekend. When she doesn’t. At most, David’s takes 8 weeks for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. So they have all Spring, up until June to order their gowns. Assure her that it won’t be extravagant, and she’ll have ample time to pay. Also, if you see this as a possible concern with all maids, don’t make them do hair/make up/specific shoes. B/c it adds up quickly, and can be intimidating. Also, if you do go the specific route, try finding discounted shoes online, b/c oftentimes, you can get another discount on a group order.

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

DATE TWIN!
I agree with the other posters. Explain that this is just for you and you will set up another appointment at another time. Also, let her know you are not looking to break their bank accounts and you will do everything in your power to keep the cost low. Girls should know that accepting to be in a bridal party includes the cost of what they wear. She shouldn’t have accepted if she couldn’t afford it, or should have told you upfront. Just my personal opinion!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It is def important for girls to discuss budgets before they look at dresses!  We found dresses that we really liked but then the price would be $200.  Some felt this was alot some felt it was fine.  I thought it was a bit much considering other expenses.  If you have the discussion with the girls ahead of time and privately they will be able to tell you how much they can spend and want to spend without feeling the pressure to say the amount the other girls do if you aked them in a group.

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