(Closed) bridemen?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I have to pick all guys and he has to pick all men ??

You mean you have to pick all GIRLS? No, you don’t. Pick your best friend to stand on your side. It should be the people the love and support you most, not dictated by gender

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I had a bridesman! Don’t worry about what other people think, you’ll regret it if you do!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

My brother will be my bridesman – choose whoever you want in your bridal party, I say 

Post # 7
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Newbee

The last wedding I went to there was a dude in the bridal party. It was the first time I’d seen it but it was a reveleation… I mean, why should it be all guys on one side and gals on the other? A wedding is not a middle school dance! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

No, don’t make him an usher! He has been a good friend to you and if you want to have him as a bridesman then go for it! It may be new to your fiancé, but you can show him that it’s not as strange as it may seem. Why should your dear friend stand up on your fiancé’s side?

For what it’s worth, I’m having two bridesmen and my fiancé is having some groomsmaids. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

Chiming in to say that I too have a bridesman (my little brother). Life is short, do what will make you happy. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I have two bridesmen (brothers). And am very happy about the choice. I will say though that I’ve gotten ALOT of flack about it. Florist was confused. In laws were confused. Etc. Whatever. Just shows you how deep gender normative stereotypes run

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

myabi2796 :  no you don’t! My Fiance has a woman (a groomsmaid) standing up with him, and my female friend had a bridesman

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club

myabi2796 :  if they are your besties, do it! As you can see; my best friend since high school (guy) was a part of my wedding party; and my hubby’s friend (girl) since college was a part of his grooms-people. My other guy friend couldnt come to the wedding or be a part of my wedding party due to his job (out of state deal). 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I stood on my brothers side at his wedding and he stood on my side at mine. Nobody blinked an eye. Do it! 🙂

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