(Closed) Bride's demands hurtful

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You’re not being sensitive, she’s being a bitch.


edit:  As for something actually helpful, if it were me I would tell her how hurt I was by the comments.  She might do the right thing and apologize, promise not to do it again.  Or she won’t, and will continue being terrible.  In that case I would drop out of the wedding and be glad to not have to deal with her every again.


Post # 4
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would not and never did say that to my bridesmaids! How awful. To me, that is just completely out of line and I am so sorry she said those things to you. You shouldn’t have to change your appearance for her wedding. Be yourself. If she doesn’t like it, then that is her issue and she needs to deal with it.

Post # 5
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014


-___- why do brides even care how skinny their bridesmaids are or how old they are???

isn’t it enough you agreed to be part of her bridal party despite dress and other expenses etc?

I have not requested my bridesmaids to do anything other than get their dress. Pick whichever dress will flatter everyone and decide together. 

Definitely rude and unreasonable.

Post # 6
145 posts
Blushing bee

@introvertedgal:  I almost screamed out in the second paragraph. WHAT???? Even if you were obese, it absolutely makes no sense. 

Then your grey hair is a “problem” that will ruin her photos? wow.

Sorry, I don’t have a good advice. It’s very hard for me to believe she was a nice girl. But I don’t think this is something you can chalk it up. 

Post # 7
3699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@introvertedgal:  Wow, your “friend” is being a really rude and bitchy.  The only demand I made of my MOH, personal appearance-wise, is that she take a shower the day of the wedding. 

Post # 8
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well, considering you referred to her as a “woman” and not a “friend” and then outlined several ridiculous and unneccesary things she’s demanded of you to be in the wedding… there’s your sign.  Peace out of that wedding, sit back and watch it burn.

Post # 9
8987 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

What a bitch. I’d tell her she knock off being one or I leave.

Post # 10
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

she is being completely unreasonable and yes — a total bitch. my advice: tell her the requests hurt your feelings. if she is your friend at all, then she will agree that you should not have to change. if she does not agree, then she does not deserve to have you for a bridesmaid. 

Post # 11
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@introvertedgal:  I would absolutely NEVER say this to any of my friends!!!  I would be very honest with her about how you are not going to lose any more weight just for her wedding and you aren’t going to dye your hair. Do I think it’s a huge deal to dye someone’s hair? Absolutely not, but do I think it’s terribly rude to suggest you do so to avoid “ruining” her wedding pictures? Absolutely so!  If this person is your friend then she should not be making you feel bad about yourself to make herself feel better.

Post # 12
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow, I think she is being very rude. I can’t stand that people think because they are getting married that that is any reason to treat their closest friends horribly. I would definitely say something to her. If you dont say anything it is only going to get worse.

Post # 13
3584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Your “friend” sounds like a total jerk.

Post # 14
4719 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@introvertedgal:  Sure every bride wants her wedding (pictures) to be ‘perfect’ but she’s just a nasty bitch. Not everyone has the same body type. End of story. 


I sure hope no elderly people dare to come with their greys on display.. Grey hair is happens and truthfully, you don’t need a friend who cares what color your hair is. Baffling that someone cares so much about hair color and so little about the feelings of their friend. 




Post # 15
2810 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsTVLover:  exactly what i was going to say, except i wasn’t going to use that nice of a word.

OP, you shouldn’t feel obligated to do either of those things. weight loss is a personal thing, you should never be forced to do it just because you’re in a wedding and the bride is a bitch. and as for your hair, i’m sure it looks beautiful just the way it is. gray isn’t a bad thing.

this bride is a piece of work.

Post # 16
1507 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@OldMrsMcDonald:  +1!!

I can’t believe she said any of this to you!!!  I would absolutely drop out of the wedding and probably say something snarkly, but that’s because I have no self control.

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