- 8 years ago
My son just called to tell me that his fiance’s grandfather passed away after a long battle with cancer just 6 days before the wedding. This has been my greatest fear all along. He has been in and out of hospitals and rehabilitation centers for months and my FDIL’s mother has been totally stressed as she has been the family advocate.
The wedding is a mini destination wedding 4 hours away at a beach and we are all scheduled to leave in 3 days. I feel sad and a bit guilty that I have been the one to accompany the bride for all the fun planning, picking out the ceremony site, venue, flowers, photographer, DJ, etc. and her mom has been dealing with her ill father. She is a very emotional person, nervous, and takes meds for OCD. I want to do whatever I can to ease the strain that she is under, yet I want to be upbeat for my FDIL so as not to ruin her day.
I don’t know if they are going to have services for the grandfather before or after the wedding. I know there were a lot of issues regarding this man and the way he treated the family. Apparently he was always pretty demanding and critical. The last few months he accused everyone of being part of a conspiracy along with the doctors to make him sicker. He screamed at his 10 year old grandson at Christmas that he would probably die from germs because he had kissed him. I’m sure a lot of this was from the meds he was taking. I know how stressful this is for the family because I lost my husband and father to cancer. I feel both guilty and relieved that this is over for them. I’m also a bit angry and disappointed that the grandfather’s 2 other daughters never stepped up to help with their dad and my FDIL’s mother missed out on planning her only daughter’s wedding because she was caring for her father. My son has asked me to meet with all the vendors this week to finalize everything which I will be glad to do.
If there are any other Bees out there who have gone through something like this, I would like to hear your experience or suggestions as to what I should to still make the wedding a happy day. After looking forward to this for so long, I’m feeling a bit shell shocked right now…