- Ms. Peach
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I know my BM’s have lives. I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man several times over, so I also know it can be a drag sometimes, no matter how honored you are to be involved in someone elses wedding. I have 4 BM’s standing up. 2 are out of town, so limited as to what they can do. One of them checks in more than the other, but both are my oldest friends and I know they’re available any time if/when I need them. The 3rd is my SIL who just gave birth a month ago and also has a 2 yr old. Nuff said, but again, available if/when I need her, although she may need an army of help and a weeks notice to get out the door.
The 4th is the one who is making me bummed out a bit. She’s one of my best friends, and until I met my Fiance we were pretty inseperable. She’s still single though, and our lives are a little different now. We still talk daily, but I don’t see her as much. She has herself booked up most nights with different activities for weeks at a time, so it’s hard to get together with her. Honestly, she has not been available to me for months, and I’d rather she try to make plans to go out for a drink than do anything wedding related. It does bother me that she doesn’t ever ask about the wedding when I talk to her. Not that it needs to be THE WEDDING SHOW 24/7, but our conversations are all about her and her stuff and if I bring up the wedding, or just me in general, she’s interested for about 5 min. I do know she’s happy for me. She’s just self involved and has a lot of responsibilities and a chaotoic life. She has a lot of drama with her family, and she shoulders it all. She keeps herself busied up all the time because she is avoiding her real life. I know all this, so I don’t hold her flakyness against her. I just kind of regret asking her to be in my wedding. Because, even though it’s not her responsibility to pick up the slack of my other BM’s, I don’t feel like I can count on her in general a lot of the time. It’s frustrating, and it’s something that goes way beyond my wedding. I guess I just have to look for help outside of my bridal party. It could be much worse, I know. A lot of people have more drama than just BM’s that are too busy or too distracted to help with STD’s. Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry it’s so long!