Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids whos wedding isnt till sept bought her wedding dress and daughters dress an hour before my bridesmaid dress shopping appointment. She tried to hide the fact of what she did from me but gladly shared what dress she picked for her and her daughter with my mother while i was with my other bridesmaid making an alteration appointment with her. Should the bridesmaid whom is getting married in sept(last i knew) have waited to shop for her wedding dress after the dress shopping for them for my wedding? Everyone i have told what happened along with my mother and my other bridesmaid found it rude.
Post # 3
I’m not sure I understand why this upset you. Is it because she was taking some of the attention away from you and your wedding? Unless she was really being obnoxious about it and wouldn’t stop talking about her own wedding, then I don’t think it’s a huge deal.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Let me make sure I understand this correctly. You want to know if someone who is getting married in 8 months should have waited to buy her wedding dress because you had not selected what bridesmaid dress she would wear for your wedding? What would be the purpose of her waiting to buy her wedding dress?
Post # 5
I don’t know… she didn’t schedule it during your appointment, and if it were me, personally, and I could kill two birds with one stone, I’d do it too.
I don’t see how it would detract from my experience, and to be honest, I would’ve been all excited to see her in the dress she picked!
Post # 6
As long as it didn’t affect your appointment, who cares?
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
I think she was being incredibly nice! She was trying to keep the appointment about you by not mentioning it to you, even though she had exciting news. I’m not really sure why you’re upset.
Post # 8
It’s none of your business when she shops for her wedding dress.
Post # 9
@cestvrai: I agree. For a wedding in September, she should be purchasing her dress now, or earlier, anyways. I’m not sure why this upsets you. I don’t see it as selfish as she’s trying to get her wedding checklist done as well. My sister and her Maid/Matron of Honor (who was getting married within a month of each other) both purchased their wedding gowns on the same appointment time. Was she purchasing a gown that you were looking at and showed her prior to her appointment?
Post # 10
@Westwood: it kinda did effect my appointment because she had gone there ahead of me i didnt 1 get to talk to the lady who worked with me before nor did i get anysay what dresses she tried on.
Post # 11
Just because you are having a wedding, doesn’t mean the world stops for anyone else. She is planning her wedding too, she knew she was expected at a place where dresses where sold, and she made an appointment in a time manor that allowed her to particpate with your plans. The only way it would have not been okay, or it would have been rude, is if she tried on wedding dresses durring the time your appointment was for.
If this girl is a good enough friend to be a bridesmaid, you need to be happy that she found a dress for her wedding she liked.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I don’t think it’s a big deal. If her wedding is in September she should not have to wait to buy a dress. Yes, it is a little odd she bought her dress the exact same day as your bridesmaid dress shopping appoinment, but maybe she wasn’t planning on it and just happened to find the one. As long as she wasn’t parading around in her dress at your appointment telling everyone to look at her then I think it’s fine.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Are you telling me that there are actually people in your circle of friends who think that it was rude of your bridesmaid to buy her dress because it was an hour before your appointment? Why does that even matter AT ALL??? Are you jealous that you weren’t THERE when she bought it? What is the actual problem here?
Also, maybe she didn’t hide it from you. Maybe she just knew that this is how you’d react so she didn’t tell you.
FFS life isn’t a giant competition.
Post # 14
I would be a little hurt that she tried to hide it from me but not others, but otherwise I wouldn’t care too much. She has to buy a dress sometime, and for a September wedding she needs to buy very soon to have it in time.
Post # 15
I don’t get it. She’s at the store buying merchandise. What about that is rude?
Post # 16
@LaurieLovesJay: …who cares? She’s getting married too, has lots to do, what’s wrong with killing two birds with one stone?