(Closed) Bride's (married) did you feel shy to have all the spot on you?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I generally love being in the spotlight, so I had a blast on my wedding day.  I will say, though, that I got kind of self-conscious during the first dance.  It was just so QUIET, with EVERYONE staring at us.  I think it’s key to pick a short song for the first dance if you are shy.  Another option is just to dance with your new husband for the first few seconds of the song, then invite everyone else to join you on the dance floor.  Takes the pressure off!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

At first.  The weekend was exhausting!  The bridesmaid’s luncheon, then the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, followed by everyone fawning on you over the wedding morning.  Honestly, the second I walked down and laid eyes on Darling Husband, I felt fine.  At that point the attention was on US and I felt so much better.  It was a great analogy for marriage!!!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is it possible to edit the song to be shorter?  The song we chose was actually six minutes long, but I edited it down to three minutes.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am a very extroverted person but yes, being a bride was too much spot light for me. I do like attention and I am an outgoing person but I dont like that much attention! LOL I dont think I acted shy but I know I felt kinda shy. I just tried my best to act my normal self and try to ignore that everyones eyes were on me. I mean, I did look amazingly gorgeous so it was an ok day for them to all be looking at me. Surprised ahahaha!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I was wondering the same thing!  My Fiance and I have discussed possibly having a small ceremony since I get very anxious and I don’t want a lot of people staring at me.  I don’t know what I will do at the reception since I get so anxious.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I had a very large whisky beforehand. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My husband and I are both very private, introverted people so the number one thing that stressed us out about our wedding was being to center of attention! We planned the wedding to fit our personalities– we had only 30 guests, and a very casual ceremony and picnic reception. We walked down the aisle together for the ceremony, and our reception didn’t have any dancing or toasts. We didn’t have any showers or other parties either. Honestly, it was still quite stressful to be the center of attention and to be hosting so many people (we aren’t party planners or entertainers at all, normally), but it was also fun to share our ceremony with the people we love. We almost eloped, but we’re glad we did it this way. Still, we were so exhausted by the end of the day!

We wrote our own vows and our entire ceremony, and it was nerve-wracking to not only be the center of attention, but also be sharing something so personal in front of a bunch of people. My husband and I just tried to focus on each other during the ceremony, and to be together while mingling with guests at the reception. Whenever we’re in a stressful situation, we feel better when we’re together, and that’s what your wedding day is all about!

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We were both worried about being the center of attention. I dont mind being the center of attention, but I felt like a wedding is so personal and we were going to be sharing our feelings for each other in front of everyone…so that caused a lot of anxiety.

I had a glass of champagne before I went down the asile, that took the edge off. In many of my pictures I looked goofy, like I was trying to giggle, because I felt so strange with everyone’e eyes on me during our ceremony.

However, after the ceremony, I felt a great relief and went on to have a wonderful time. You will be fine…the ceremony can be a little odd because everyone IS looking at you, but after that the pressure alleviates and you spend the rest of the evening with your husband, which makes it a lot more comfortable.

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