Post # 1
I know this can go both ways but how are you guys writing out your invites, bride’s name first or groom’s? I believe my name should come first simply because to me it just looks and sounds better on the invitations and seems more traditional. My fiance is adamant that the mans name always comes first and that’s the way it’s always been. I have already agreed that his name will come first but I still feel icky about it for some reason.
So how are you guys having your invitations?
If it helps, we are splitting the costs for the wedding between my fiance’s parents, my parents and ourselves so technically we are all hosts and it doesn’t actually matter whose name comes first, I’m just looking for opinions.
Post # 3
Most of the invites I have received have the Brides name first. But is saying that we put the groom name first on our invites, it was important to my Fiance that his name was first and it really didn’t bother me and this was the first thing he actually cared about in the wedding planning process. So my suggestion would be let your Fiance put his name first most of the wedding stuff is based around the bride so let him have this small thing.
Post # 4
We did bride’s name first. That is how I have always seen it, and I like it that way.
But if your fiance is being very vocal about wanting his name first and it doesn’t really matter to you, I say let him have this.
Post # 5
I do wedding invitations on the side and I always do the bride’s name first for everything “pre-wedding”–so that means save the dates and invitations. The opposite goes for post-wedding items like thank you cards. Etiquette dictates that the woman’s name goes first before the wedding, but after the wedding, the man’s name goes first.
Post # 6
However, I’d like to add that it really is just “how people say to do it”, but it’s ultimately up to you. If your fiance want his name first, I agree with previous posters and just let him have that part of your wedding. =)
Post # 7
When i sent out the save the dates, the woman who created them put the bride’s name first. But whenever I refer to ourselves as a couple I say his name first because it’s alphabetical, lol. I think it’s personal preference, really!
Post # 8
I think traditionally the brides name comes first. I think it’s because traditionally the brides family pay for the wedding. We had the grooms name first. I didn’t really care which way it went and he asked if he could be first so I was happy with that. I think it’s a personal choice.
Post # 9
Our invite has the bride’s name first, I read about it somewhere and why her name typically goes first, but now I don’t remember.
Post # 10
My name (bride) came first). And that is how it is on pretty much everything for the wedding. Fi asked why but he doesn’t care either way.