- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I have a HUGE family, and I’m talking family reunions of upwards to 300 people.
Groom’s family is literally 6 people. Add in his friends and close family friends, my groom has MAYBE…and this is a strech, 25 people.
However, I have 160 (Family, and family friends, and only about 10 just friends, because my family is taking up so much room on the guest list)
The number of people coming is already set in motion and we cannot chage that.
But Groom and i got in a small heated *ahem* discussion………tonight and he feels, I don’t know…just not “represented” (to use his word).
I can absolutly see where he is coming from, but I feel there’s hardly anything I can do about it.
So here’s the facts:
Me- Huge fam, and believe it or not, I am cutting SO many people.
Him- Small Fam, and I literally have thought of everyone he’s met in his life, lol.
Me-My parents have bought my dress, are taking care of catering bill, photographer, invitations, centerpieces, my mom has been a huge help with my planning, organizing, supporting, and just generally being my rock.
Him- His parents gave us $50 to go towards the wedding(????????????????)
Me- My Godmother has told me I have $1000 to be used for anything I need weather it be wedding, honeymoon, home (which is not considered my gift)…
Him/Me- we are paying for Venue, DJ, Wedding Party attire, Honeymoon (Already paid for), linens, chair rental…odds and ends things that get overlooked and add up
Me- My Sister, who lives in London (we live in St. Louis, Mo) is flying here, with my niece (flower girl) to be in/at the wedding and that was NOT cheap.
It’s just that I am really trying hard not to hold all of these things against my Groom because it’s not His FAULT, but I feel like he doesn’t get that if my parents weren’t paying for so much, that this wedding wouldn’t be what it is. AND I guess my question is that…how can I represent or I don’t know…include his guests better or in a special way??? even though they are basically coming for a free meal and drink. I’m sorry, trying not to be bitter, but I have been putting this thing together for 7 months and then suddly, I’m not doing enough.
So, any words of wisdon, advice, or just a plain “shut up”….I dunno, would maybe be helpful.