(Closed) Bride’s side HUGE, Groom’s side…tiny…..

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow.. I don’t even know what to say.  What exactly is your Fiance looking for you to do to make him feel more represented?  I mean, what CAN you do?  I really don’t understand him being upset with you because he only has 25 ppl… that’s not your fault (or his).  But really.. what exactly is he expecting?  If he wants to complain about being underrepresented, he needs to come up with some things that would make him feel better about the situation.  Though.. I really don’t know what can be done.  It really seems like one of those things that “is what it is”.

Regardless, I hope everything works out for the two of you, hun… and I hope someone else comes along with some better advice because I’m at a loss.

Post # 4
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would make sure that your FI’s guests have assigned front row seating for the ceremony, and I would also have them sit at a table close to your table, just because there are so few of them. Just making sure they feel like they are being taken care of will go a very long way. You can also have assigned seating during the ceremony for your immediate family, but I would make sure that FI’s guests get prime seating at both the ceremony and the reception. Doing this should make him feel a little bit better.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think there’s anything left for you to do if you’ve thought of everyone he could invite.  My Fiance made a comment the other day about how the guest list looks like it’s more than double mine.  I said No!!!  But just now i counted and low and behold: Me: 106 guests, Him: 48 guests.

Is this common?  My family is also huge.  My mom is one of 11 kids who each have at least 4-5 kids.  I had to leave a ton of first-cousins off the list and still came to 106.  I told Fiance he can ask his parents again if they want anyone else included, but I also don’t want just anyone there when I am cutting family.

It is what it is I guess.  I’m going to have to have all our mutual friends sit on his side of the church 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

There’s nothing you can do…it’s not YOUR fault you have a big family and he doesn’t. I had a whole whopping 5 family members at my wedding. Dh had about 90. So uhhh…yeah. We didn’t have ‘sides’ for our ceremony. We sat my family together (since there were so few of them) and that was it.

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