Brides speech?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

 I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding where the bride has given a speech, outside of the rehearsal dinner.  But in my circle there is usually only a speech by the best man, no dads….no Maid/Matron of Honor….  (And I’m glad they’re short and sweet, to be honest.)

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I didn’t say anything, neither did my groom.  I think we meant to say thanks to everyone for coming but there just wasn’t time and/or we forgot!

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I’ve been to a ton of weddings and never once seen anyone give speeches, much less the bride and groom. I’m not planning to give any speech and no one has ever said it’s strange or wrong to skip them. (except online where people give you grief if you don’t do what they read that everyone else is supposedly doing)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have not ever seen a bride give a speech, I do think it is appropriate for the bride and groom to take a moment to thank their families/guests. I’m planning on doing so after the cake cutting.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve never seen a bride give a speech. I don’t plan on giving one. I don’t think he does either. If our girls or our guys don’t want to then they don’t have to. We do plan on seeing everyone personally and talking to them though. We’re only expectin about 60-70 of our 150 guests, most are my family from several states away that I know will unable to attend.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have only seen the bride and groom give a speech together as a thank you to everyone. I know thats the only speech we are planning on giving..

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’ve only been to two weddings and neither bride gave a speech. I plan on making a small one at my wedding though…Groom probably won’t be, other than to thank everyone for coming.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I haven’t been to a wedding where the bride gave a speech. The last one I went to, the groom did. 

At our wedding there will be two brides, and I’m the more outgoing one so I’ll be giving a speech essentially from both of us. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Ive only been to one wedding where the bride has given a speech. I dont plan on giving one. My fiance and I may say a quick thank you to our guests, but we are largely skipping speeches.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I think its more common for the groom to give a speech, but I’ll be giving one at our wedding as Fiance gets pretty bad anxiety with any sort of public anything. But when I say speech, it’ll just be a bunch of thank yous pretty much.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’ve seen the bride and groom give a short speech together, or it’s just been the groom.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

morgan_e_johnson:  I have been to many, many weddings… never seen the bride or groom give a speech. I’ve seen speeches from the bestman, Maid/Matron of Honor, or the father of the bride.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  BrideK2Wings.
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where the bride has had a speech. For our upcoming May wedding, we are cutting out all speeches. Fiance and I (or maybe just FI) will give a quick thank you to our family and other guests for coming, in lieu of the speeches with the champagne toast (still having the champagne, which is included in our venue package).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Technically, “speeches” are the territory of club dinners and professional association luncheons. What you get at weddings are “toasts”. A good toast is “Thank-you all for coming. I appreciate your good fellowship and support over the years, and I know you support us moving forward into our married lives. To good fellowship!” (sit down.) Actually that might be a bit long and wordy.

Toasts are traditionally given by the gentlemen at the party (since they have so few other opportunities to shine: they don’t belong in the receiving line, except in the U.S. they aren’t properly named on the outer envelope, and aren’t entitled to make guest-list or catering or decorating decisions, and have a colour-palette for their fashion choices that ranges from grey to black.) At the beginning of the dinner, the host (traditionally the father of the bride) thanks the guests for coming and offers a toast to the bride and groom. After dessert is served, the best man offers a toast to the bride. The groom responds by thanking everyone and offering a toast to the bridesmaids.

After that, anyone — lady or gentleman — who is witty or an accomplished speaker or too drunk to care, can rise and offer a toast; although it is to be hoped that the last of those are restrained by their more sober friends. Now, if the hostess wishes to turn the tables and have the ladies give the toasts and make the gentlemen stand in the receiving line, that is her privilege. But she certainly has no obligation to change things up.

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