Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2016 - BoBrooke Farm
My fiancé and I set an appointment to reserve our date for the venue we loved. When we arrived we were disappointed to find out our date was booked by another couple. The significance was that the day we had chosen was our first date. He drove 9 hours to spend the weekend in fl visiting me at college. The day they had the same weekend was Sunday. because we both loved the venue so much and I really had my heart set on it …we booked the Sunday spot. I am still on the brink of tears HOPING I did the right thing, but still feeling disappointed I did not get the Saturday. Any other brides to be have this happen???
Post # 2
Yes, but no big deal. We wanted a certain date in Fall 2015 but that was full so we went with Spring 2016. Venues fill up fast, first person to put a deposit for that date will have it. We really liked our venue so just decided on another Saturday.
If you are that upset, maybe keep looking for another venue with the date you want. However, you may forfeit your deposit.
Post # 3
I would have liked a date that had meaning between us, but ultimately our wedding day trumps all other days. Don’t be disappointed, there are bigger fish to fry 🙂
Post # 4
Just think of it as having another special day to add to your calendar. That’s actually my goal: to set a date that’s as far from any other special days as possible (like our birthdays, dating anniversary, engagement date, etc) so we have another special day to celebrate in the year.
Post # 5
Well, think about it now..that date and memory will always have its own date, and the day after (how many years later) will now have its own meaning and you will forever have a story for both days, and every few years, all in one weekend of celebration! Especially if you loved your venue. Instead of piling all those special occasions on one day, you have two right next to eachother every calendar year 🙂
Post # 6
We loved our venue so much that we decided to work with whatever availability they had and sacrifice our “dream wedding date” in order to get it. While we wanted our wedding in the fall in September or early October, we settled for end of November when they had their next opening and took that. It was still beautiful and wonderful and we were just so happy to have the venue that we had our heart set on. It will all work out. You’ll be glad you got the venue you wanted.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
I wanted to get married in September or early October, but because Fiance works in baseball, we had to wait until after the World Series would be over. So I picked the very first Friday in November. In my mind, that was our wedding date. We had to wait about a month before we got some things squared away budget-wise and I contacted the coordinator at the venue and that date was taken. We were in the middle of a mall when I got the email and I started CRYING IN THE MIDDLE OF A MALL because “our date” was taken. I collected myself and we decided we’d jsut do the next Friday, as it was available. We’re getting married on Friday the 13th. Haha. In the end, it’s just a date. And whatever date it happens to be will be magical, because it’s OUR WEDDING date. So I completely understand your diappointment, but I truly don’t think you’ll ever be disappointed again that it’s not on a specific date.
Post # 8
That’s what we are doing, too! We like having excuses to go out 🙂
Post # 9
we intentionally didn’t pick a date before picking a venue. We had a month in mind but were flexible on the dates as we didn’t want to get our hearts set on something we couldn’t have.
Your wedding will be great – you can have your rehearsal on the anniversary of your first date and now you have a 2 day long celebration every year – your first date into your wedding. The beginning and the rest nicely connected together.
Post # 10
Snap! Was aiming for October 2015 but ended up with April 2016 as well. I’m completely fine with it now – and really like the new date – 16/4/16 or 4/16/16.
My annoyance at the time was that when Fiance and I went to look at the venue, our initial date was taken but we were really interested in 17/10 and 24/10. We were told next step was to pay deposit. When we went back to pay the deposit – I was told that both those dates had been ‘pencilled in’ by others. This wasn’t an option they had given us! The other couples hadn’t paid the deposit and venue wouldn’t let me gazzump them as they were there first – even though the irony was we were actually first. *sigh*
Over it now – and more time to save up!
Post # 11
Ask the venue if you could contact the other couple and see if the date is of significance to them and how far along they are in their planning process (have they ordered STD, etc).
A lot of couples pick random dates and might be fine changing to another weekend; I know I’d be ok changing if it wasn’t too inconvenient and would help another couple.