Post # 16
jmaccop : Life changes are always difficult, it’s the hardest thing to deal with but judging by how you talk about your brother, I can tell you’re really close with him. Why not just lay it all out on the table in the sense. Emphasize that you don’t want to seem like you’re jealous but that you really miss spending time with him.
Sometimes we need to say it all out in the open and honestly if it has to be a long text message or an email so be it just make sure you let him know how you’re feeling. Communication isn’t always easy but it is vital to our growth.
Best of luck
Post # 17
So, perhaps another angle- I am an only child, and my parents are out of town. However, for holidays, and other fun things going on with my in laws and their much larger family, we just incorporate my family. Do you think your SIL would be interested in some joint family affairs? Particularly since there seem to just be you and your parents? That might ease the blow of having to share holidays etc. and for my husband and I, gave us a nice opportunity to have our parents become friendly. This became especially important now that we have kids.
That said, give your brother some time to establish his cadence in his new life. If your relationship is as strong as you say it is, I suspect you’ll work out a nice rhythm once he gets settled in. In the meantime, perhaps you can grow and cultivate some of your other friendships. This might be a great opportunity to reconnect with some old friends- or make some new ones.