Post # 17
Thanks a bunch for all this wonderful information!
I will say, I thought I would worry about the play lists, but the more I thought about it, the more I have been like “screw it.” I’m gonna let the DJ do what he/she wants. With the exception of our dances and entry songs.
I’m still working out my timeline. But I know it helps to have everyone on the same schedule.
Post # 18
It sounds like you had a great timeline, would you mind sharing it? We have ours pretty much set but it would be great to compare it to someone who had a successful timeline. Thanks!!
Post # 19
What a great idea Humarock! You have such great answers, its awesome you are willing to answer everyones questions (im sure there will be many more to come!) If you want me to help answer some questions let me know 🙂
Post # 20
whitesonnet – With five months to go if you’re already saying “screw it” you’re going to have an awesome wedding! In my opinion, as long as you’re willing to accept whatever happens because the whole point is that you are married, tnen you’ll be a happy bride!
heatherlynn – send me a PM with your email and i will send it along — it has a bit of personal info (names etc.) so I don’t want to post it on here — although if people are interested i could make a “weddingbee” version so that others could see it.
naangel – I thought more people would ask questions! I have a hard time just talking about the wedding without someone asking me questions. Feel free to answer any / all of them! I am sure that all the bees who asked me would love to hear from another bride!!
Post # 21
I too would love to see your timeline!! I’m also a very “organized”/anal bride when it comes to the details! My email is [email protected]! Thanks!!
My questions: what was your biggest pain to plan? How did you deal with it? Did you have any vendor issues? If you could pass one piece of advice on to future brides what would it be?
Thanks so much!
Post # 22
Nice thread!!! Wish somebody helped me out. Good luck to all the brides to be.
Post # 23
I have a question, when you got married did you change your last name? If so, did you run into any snags getting your name changed? (DMV, Social Security Office, Banks, etc. ) I’m debating whether I want to keep my maiden name or not.
Post # 24
TP — I usually weddingbee at work and the timeline is at home, hopefully I remember over the weekend, if not send me a PM cause that goes to my email!
Now to your questions:
what was your biggest pain to plan? How did you deal with it? Did you have any vendor issues? If you could pass one piece of advice on to future brides what would it be?
biggest pain – We did custom invitations and they turned out AMAZING. but there was so so much going back and forth and revisions and fonts and sizes and shapes – I wanted them to be so perfect, and they were, but it was by far the biggest pain. We were told that peopel loved them, so it was worth it in the end, but ugh just thinking about it makes my head hurt! I didn’t deal with it very well – lots of frustration but I think looking back how could I have dealt with it better — been more up front with the designer. Made more of a plan before we got into the nitty gritty. Have it set before that you have 2 or 3 revisions, that’s it! And try, try hard, to take a step back, a deep breath, and realize it’s just one detail and it will be beautiful! Vendor issues – barely any! only issue would be with the stationery again – timing of it – but that was again mostly my fault because I wanted to send the invites 10 weeks out (because near the holidays I didnt want them to get lost in the jumble of holiday cards) … and I never communicated that to her – but in the end we got them only one day ‘late’ (still early by most peoples perspective!) and none of the guests noticed.
one piece of advice: look at everything from someone else’s perspective. that of your groom, your parents, his parents, a guest, a vendor … try to think how THEY are thinking …. we wanted a first look, my parents freaked, then I explained to them that there would be more time to enjoy the party they were paying so much money for because we would be done all the formals before the weddign – they got it. We wanted our ceremony guitarist to play the entire songs (not just part of the songs) but he explained to us why he wanted to shorten because of multiple versus and bored guests, we didnt listen, the songs were waaay too long. Just try to look at it from someone else’s point of view – they mi ght have a good point (like the guitarist!) or not at all (like my parents!) 🙂
Post # 25
m harmon – here are your questions: when you got married did you change your last name? If so, did you run into any snags getting your name changed? (DMV, Social Security Office, Banks, etc. ) I’m debating whether I want to keep my maiden name or not.
and my answer: not yet! But I plan on it! We are in the process of buying a house – and I signed the first half of the documents with my maiden name … so I have to keep the same name on the final documents to be signed on Feb 26 … annoying! But, I have heard that the process is fairly straight forward but very tedious and long. Lots of forms to fill out and lines to wait in (DMV lines here in MA are terrible!)
In my opinion (and this is just MY opinion!) it’s just a process to go through once and then it will be done, so I suggest doing it sooner then later if you have no other obstacles. I think that if you decide to change your name you should get married, honeymoon (or relax) and just get going on the name change – you’ll already be used to filling out forms and doing all the hard work from the wedding planning that it will just be better to get it changed sooner then later.
Post # 26
Again, such good mental notes – – we’re having all our STD and Invitations custom made as well. I have read so many October threads that the brides have their STD out already. I haven’t even received my final copy to review. I have had in my head this enter time that I’ll have them out first week of March. I called the gal and told her I now want them out as soon as possible. After reading all the threads I panicked!
And then the music, this is SO crazy you just wrote about this. We’re having a 6 person band and the guy told me that during the ceremony they only have 1 pianist and that’s it! Well, I wanted more. Not only do I have a specific non traditional song that I’ll be walking down the aisle to (and they’re learning) I also want different instruments NOT just a piano…But in the end I think maybe just a piano will be fine – and then they’ll learn the song I want and have a couple of more instruments just for my walk. That would be special!!!