(Closed) Brides under 25… When do you want to start having kids?

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: What age do you want to be when you start having children?

    18-20

    21-23

    24-26

    27-29

    30+

    No kids for us! We're childfree by choice

    We want children, but we're not sure when yet

    We haven't decided whether or not we want children

  • Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think i’d like to be about 29.  He’ll be 27 when we’re married and i’ll be turning 27 a month after.. i think i’d want to be married for a year or two after before having kids.  i’m sure this could all change tho

     

    edit: idk why i just answered this when it says “brides under 25″….oops

    Post # 48
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    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I chose 27-29 because that is about the time I would like to try to have kids.  My Fiance however is going through this phase where he keeps saying he doesn’t want kids at all.  We are 21 and 22 now so I completely understand why he feels that way right now.  But I know we will eventually have children because he always slips and says stuff like when we have kids….. Plus he is the only boy out of his siblings/cousins to carry on the family name so I know him and his family really want us to have kids eventually.  We will be 22 and 23 when we get married so I definitely wouldn’t mind waiting 6-10 years after we get married to start a family. 

    Post # 49
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    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m opposite of everyone in here, I want to be DONE babymaking when i’m 25/26.

    I want my littles (2) to be close in age, and I want to have them while i’m young. Sure 20/21 isn’t a big diffrence in the long run from 26/27 year old parents but I cannot imagine being 30 having children, just not my prefrence.

    Post # 50
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    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Were both 21 and well be almost 23 when we get married and we want to wait a year so well be around 25-26ish but i want to have all my children by the time im 30 and we only want 3 kids at the most we want one boy and one girl and then one more in case we get two of the same gender then we can try once again.

    Post # 51
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    1887 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I won’t be fully qualified in my profession until I’m 26. I definitely want at least 2 years of actually doing that role post-qualification before having children, and right now we’re thinking of TTC around the age of 30 (we’re both the same age).

    Post # 52
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    887 posts
    Busy bee

    DH and I recently pushed back our TTC timeline.  He and I are 27 and 24, respectively, and were initially planning on TTC this fall.  However, we’ve shelved the whole baby plan indefinitely.  We’re still young enough that this is an option.  I’m hoping that within the next 5-6 years or so we’ll revisit the topic.  For now, we’re having too much fun not worrying about little ones (as much as I have baby fever!!) 

    Post # 53
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    22 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We are 21, wanting to have children between 25 and 30 (2, maybe 3 kids). Ideally we’d have 3-4 years ‘alone’ as a married couple, but considering how long we’re waiting (probably 6 months to engagement then another year to marriage), that might push back a bit… sigh!

    Post # 54
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    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ll be 25 when we get married in June and my Fiance is 27.  We want to start TTC after the wedding.  For the last 2 years we haven’t been preventing getting pregnant, but it hasn’t happened yet either.  We are ready to have kids, even though ideally I would love to own a house 1st, but either way I will be happy.

    Post # 55
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    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    If we end up having kids (still undecided, and if we do, probably 1 max) then it will be before I turn 30. Risk of breast cancer increases if first full term pregnancy is after age 30, among other things.

     

    Post # 56
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    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I am 24 and we have been together for 7 years. Kids are another 4-5 years away. We want to travel to Europe again, save a deposit and build a house before we start a family and unless we win lotto, it will be a while before we can do all that

    Post # 57
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    1198 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’ll be 24 when I get married and my fiance will be 23.  He’s looking to go to grad school which usually takes about 2 years so the plan is to wait until he’s done with that and then we’ll have kids when I’m like 26 and he’s 25.  

    Post # 58
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Im 20, Fiance will be 26 this year, I want to have kids right away. But he says he just wants to make sure its the right time. (but i’m pretty sure no more then 2 years)

    Post # 59
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    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Both Fiance and I are 23 and will be when we get married in August. My nephew just turned 5 months old so baby fever is hitting me hard. Right now our plan is to wait 2-3 years to start TTC but we will see the timeline could be sooner or later. I have always wanted to have kids young so my parents and in laws can be in their lives a lot as they grow up, just like my grandparents were in my life.

    Side note, young couples thinking of TTC how do you compare to your friends? Fiance and I are the only ones engaged and will be first of our friends to get married (we share a really close group of friends from high school). I’m assuming we will be the first of our friends to also have kids. I’m just a bit worried that since we are further along in life right now that once we have kids it will put a weird barrier between us and our friends. Does anyone else worry about this?

    Post # 60
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    66 posts
    Worker bee

    I voted CFBC I dont like children beacuse they will slow me down. i want to travel the world, do so many things and i cant do those things with a whiny child i need to take care of from the moment its in me changing my body till its out od me changing and slowing down my life. i just want it to be me and mr Z till the end.

    Post # 61
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    662 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’ve been together since we were 17, and will be 24 when we get married.  Really I want to start have kids as soon as possible, but my career path sadly won’t really allow me to until I’m at least 27.  But if I fall pregnant before then, it won’t matter – I’ll just have to work hard around it.

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