Brides unhappy with weight – did you feel beautiful?

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 2
6923 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I was about 10 lb overweight for my wedding (from a medical standpoint – I’m not going to pretend that’s healthy of me) and am self-conscious about some features but I never once thought about it on the day. There are a few cringe pics as I’ve always hated the double chin look, but I just didn’t use them for anything. I also managed to rip a strap on my dress but meh, whatever. 

When it comes down to it, there are far more important things to worry about on the wedding day and your fiancé will let you know all you need to know in his looks and mannerisms. I don’t know anyone who felt bad about their appearance that day. Just get a dress that fits properly! I regret more that I wasn’t too fussed about my dress and it wasn’t sitting as I’d have liked. 

Post # 3
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I am a plus size woman. I don’t feel good about myself…but on my

wedding day I felt beautiful. I didn’t find myself thinking about my flaws. I was marrying my best friend with all my loved ones around me. That’s all that mattered. 

Post # 4
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I could stand to lose a good bit of weight, but have lost some recently and will continue working on it. If I don’t end up losing it all by my wedding day, I will keep telling myself to look at it in a positive light. 

You’ve aready lost 2.5 stone, which is super amazing! Do what you can to stay healthy in the time leading up to the wedding, and on the day, remember that everyone will see a radiant bride, not what you weigh. The only one who will know you didn’t lose the weight you wanted is you. 

Post # 5
10542 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I was the heaviest I’ve ever been on my wedding day. I felt beautiful. Even now that I’ve lose 50 lbs I still look at my wedding pictures and think I look beautiful. And I used to be someone who always hated how I looked in pictures.

Post # 6
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

Seeing my engagement photos helped me a lot. In my mind, I blow myself up, but in realty I’m not THAT big. Maybe that’ll help you too.

Post # 7
6166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Yes, ifelt beautiful. I gained quite a bit of weight during the few years before my wedding but with the dress, the makeup, I felt so absolutely beautiful and happy. Our weight does not define us and a lot of plus sized women are so sexy, so stunning because of the way they carry themselves/dress/ etc. I feel it’s definitely how you present yourself and carry yourself. Beauty standards are so warped today. 

Post # 8
2237 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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anapwed :  I was plus size on my wedding day, my dress was a very large size. I hated my engagement photos but I did actually feel beautiful on my wedding day. I don’t like all my wedding photos but there are many, many wedding photos where I think I still look beautiful.

I lost weight after my wedding (6.5 stone, although 2.5 stone has gone back on because I’m struggling to adjust). At my lowest people asked me if I was going to renew my vows because they don’t expect anyone to feel beautiful as the fat bride. Actually, those comments really hurt and I think have contributed to some of the weight going back on. You might not feel happy with yourself when you reach your goal weight, so I wouldn’t stress about that too much, and I’d focus on practicing some body positivity. Sometimes it’s really ingrained in us to hate our bodies no matter what. I was not practising body positivity but I did still feel beautiful.  

Post # 9
542 posts
Busy bee

i wasn’t at my goal weight when i got married, i wished i was smaller. however as pp’s have noted, the dress, hair, and makeup do transform your whole vibe and self-image. i felt beautiful, and in large part i think that’s why i love most of my photos because i look confident and present in each moment.

one year later i’ve put on ten pounds.. yikes! so i wish i was the weight i was when i got married, even though i wasn’t thrilled at that weight at the time- ha!

working on getting back on track now. moral is, enjoy the “now”. you may find yourself in the future saying, “i wish i was as “fat” as i was back when i first thought i was fat.” 😉

Post # 10
2146 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

“I was about 10 lb overweight for my wedding (from a medical standpoint – I’m not going to pretend that’s healthy of me).”

Actually a little bit of overweight (like 10 pounds) has been found to be beneficial to bone health and not detrimental to other health markers, so I wouldn’t consider myself unhealthy at 10 pounds overweight. For me, however, I feel better when my weight is lower, so I get that.

Post # 11
2943 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was (still am) way above my preferred weight range on my wedding. Sure, I had the usual self-consciousness I carry daily, but I did feel beautiful that day. Yeah I wish I looked better in the photos, but I mostly feel happiness and love whenever I look at our album. It was a great day all around. 

Post # 12
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

I’ve always been self conscious about my body, and I was certainly bigger than I wanted to be when I got married, but on the day it didn’t even cross my mind once. When I had the dress, hair, and makeup, I felt beautiful and wonderful all day. 

Post # 13
86 posts
Worker bee

anapwed :  on a related/unrelated note unless you have medical issues you shouldnt have too much trouble losing the 1.5 stone you want to lose in that time frame whilst still eating a healthy amount as long as you exercise etc, I don’t use stone anymore so I had to check but 3kg per month is manageable, regardless though I’m sure you’ll look (and judging by other comments, feel) beautiful on the day 🙂

Post # 14
8990 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I was worried about my weight and worried that all my photos would be unflattering. I lost 10lb in the lead up to it so felt a bit better, but I was still worried. Honestly. I looked amazing and felt it too. My photos are incredible. In some photos you can see I don’t have the chin of a 19 year old, but I don’t care because I am having SO MUCH fun in all the photos! 

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