Post # 1
The more time I spend shopping for wedding vendors, the more I realize that I’m starting to develop vendor pet peeves! Is anyone else having the same experience (or have experienced this)?
My example – Nothing gets me more irrationally boiled up than wedding photographers who feel like they need to impress on me that hiring them is an “Investment.” As a bride balancing the budget, personal wedding visions, expectations from family, etc., I don’t need a vendor telling me why paying them is an ‘investment’ on happy memories and how I’ll regret it if I don’t hire a ‘good’ photographer (and usually for them ‘good’ = a minimum budget of $4000 in my area). Seriously, I’ll probably look at the pictures after the wedding, 1 month after, and then the poor album will sit on the shelf until the 1 yr anniversary where they will serve as prelude to some anniversary sexytime. Other than that, they’re going to end up where all my “momentous occasion” albums end up – collecting dust on the bookcase or as substitute “reading” in the bathroom. Reusable? Yes. An “investment?” Stretching it.
I have yet to meet a couple who have gone into marital counseling because they didn’t hire the right photographer. Just let the photography speak for itself… and stop telling me how hiring you is a life-changing investment for me.
I did book a professional photographer because I know the pictures are important. But I absolutely refused to go with ones who thought it was their job to educate me on how important pictures are. It’s doubly insulting when through my research I clearly know the rates they are charging are unabashedly high even for professional photography standards.
Again, that’s my personal pet peeve. Not everyone will agree on the way I see things, but it reflects who I am and where my priorities lie. What’s your pet peeve?
Post # 3
Caterers insisting that the food alone would cost $30/person not including the dishes, servers, etc, and charging double that total. For a bbq buffet. And of course “you won’t find lower than that anywhere.” TOO BAD I found a local bbq place that catered for $17/person INCLUDING servers, dishes, buffet table, etc, for the same exact meal. Still bugs me.
Post # 4
Mine is simple: lack of response. Vendors not being willing to do the communication work to get my business when I have questions instead of instantly saying “Oh, ok, let me send a check right over!”
Post # 5
Mine is when I send an email to a vendor with two or three questions and the respond with the answers to one or two and completely ignore one of the questions!!! I hate that.
Also when they don’t directly answer my questions, they just beat around the bush.
Post # 6
@MrsNerdy: I HATE that. Sometimes I think some vendors assume that as brides we just lose all our intelligence and/or common sense. It’s almost like they’re betting we’ll become desperate Bridezillas eager to throw away money for the “perfect” wedding. Ugh!
Post # 7
Overall, just charging more for a wedding. When they break costs down, I understand, but the “wedding tax” is ridiculous.
Post # 8
Mine was vendors telling me how good they were, over and over. Show me how good you are or at least provide some examples/stories. You just repetidly telling me how awesome you are isn’t going to convince me. This was mostly one DJ inparticular who would not stop talking. He kept us there for 2 hours talking at us. He hardly let us get a word in, would ask a question and then cut me off on my answer to go into some long-winded unrelated story. All the while insisting that of course he doesn’t talk nearly this much at the wedding…somehow not convinced.
Post # 9
Transportation costs. I’m sorry, but I know my caterer’s cooking location is literally two blocks away. Why am I getting charged upwards of $500 for transportation and gas? I plan on fighting that.
Post # 10
I’m getting annoyed with my wedding coordinator. I have basically made every document you could think of with the day precisely planned out and she is essentially copying my documents and putting them on her letterhead. This is perfeclty fine except she keeps making mistakes in the schedule of things and typos all over the place. I just think it is so unprofessional and all she’s doing is retyping what I’ve already done! Get it right!!!!
Post # 11
@ohmybears48: Um, yes. Fight that. My jaw literally dropped reading that.
Post # 12
@Missloveknot: this. this. this. I had the worst luck with vendors responding to me. It’s 4 months since our wedding and I still have our baker’s cupcake stand because she won’t respond to me about how to get it back to her (it’s complicated, she doesn’t have a shop anymore; we did our final consultation at a starbucks).
My wedding photographer should get the award for worse responder ever. Not only does she avoid one or two questions, but all. I’m trying to wrap up everything with her and have sent a couple of emails asking questions and all I get is a response 2 weeks later about how busy she is without even acknowledging I asked her any questions.
Ok vent over.
Post # 13
I second vendors’ response times. I get that not everyone sits at a computer like I do all day long, but I waited almost 2 weeks for 2 of my vendors to send me contracts. Both times I’ve had to “follow up” with them because they said they would send the contract and then I don’t hear from them for over a week. Then they act like I’m being a pain in the butt for following up. Ummm sorry? I’m paying you money and you can’t be bothered to at least send me an email to tell me that you’re a little behind and you’ll get the document to me as soon as you can? And as far as being behind on contracts…I’m pretty sure they’re all pre-written, all you have to do is fill in the blanks with my name and date. That takes how long?
Post # 14
Telling me, “you should leave a (non-refundable) deposit and book with us asap because we’re almost booked to capacity on your date and might not be able to work your event!” and or/ “you won’t get it in time!” EVERY. SINGLE. VENDOR. has said that throughout this process and it’s such BS. They just want your $$$$$.
Proof: I booked one vendor 6 months ago, cancelled and ended up re-booking with them this week. Oh?? Still have our date??? HA!
Post # 15
@TankGirl: THIS!! Sometimes I’m even offering my money on a silver platter if I’ve done my research and know I want them and they STILL won’t get back to me regarding contracts or meeting to officially book. I HATE flakey vendors!
Post # 16
I have 2 pet peeves. First is not putting prices on website, it irritates the crap out of me. I want to be able to figure out if you are even in my budget before bothering to go any further!
But building on that, when people didn’t list prices, I sent out emails asking for price lists first off. Once I got a lecture of an email back from a DJ why price should NOT be my first concern, and then rambled on and on about all the amazing things they do, blah blah blah. That one got a quick X through their name on my list! Don’t judge me because I care about my budget!