Post # 31
after the horrible pictures that my sister got at her wedding due to be anxious and rushed my parents were so happy that we decided to do a first look
the only “comments” I got were from my ILs who were surprised that they had to be dressed and ready about 2 hrs before the ceremony (for family shots) …. they had planned a full day out sight seeing and that “ruined” their plan
in the end it went off without a hitch and I LOVE my pictures!
Post # 32
We did a first look and it was lovely! My mother laughed at me because the night before the wedding, I was all bent out of shape about my dress having wrinkles, so she sent me to bed like a child and stayed up late to steam it. Then, when it was time for the first look, I was so excited that I forgot ALL about keeping my dress smooth, hitched up my skirts, and took off across a giant field to meet him in the woods where he was waiting. Mom gave me a good-natured hard time about wrinkling and grass-staining my dress before the ceremony, and she had every right, lol. But she was all for the first look idea, her daughter’s ditziness notwithstanding.
Everyone else thought it was a pretty sensible plan, and it was SO NICE to be able to spend our cocktail hour partying with our friends and family, not posing for a zillion pictures. Best decision ever. Also, we are both mega-introverts who came thisclose to eloping to avoid all of the wedding hoopla. That one calming moment in the woods with a shaky groom and a grass-stained dress was really what made the day for me, to be honest.
Post # 33
I had people on both ends. My family is supportive but I have friends that keep trying to tell me I will want the tradition of not seeing him.
To me I am an intensely private person and I don’t like to be in front of people when I know I will be emotional. I hardly ever let my emotions show to anyone but my Fiance. Most of my familly, his family understand this and supported our decision to do the first look. That’s also why I told my Fi before he proposed that no one better be there but us. We decided that the moment we first see each other is such an intimate and private one and I want to freely feel all the emotions of that moment without feeling like I have to keep my crap together.
Do what you feel is best for you and who cares if other people try to change your mind. My friends are starting to come around and stop bugging me about it after I’ve explained to them and they too agreed I’m a very private person and that might be what I need to do for myself.
Post # 34
We did a first look both for logistical reasons and to have a moment together. I think sometimes you can go through the whole ceremony, picture taking and reception and anything else you have during the day and not be able to spend a few minutes with just the two of you. My first look photos are some of my favorites. They are the genuine looks of love between the two of us without the pressure of being in front of an audience.
In answer to the original question, I told my parents and they were fine with it. As for everyone else, I didn’t let anyone change my mind. My Maid/Matron of Honor tried to talk me our of it by saying that walking down the aisle and seeing each other for the first time wouldn’t be as special. I was still nervous getting ready to walk down the aisle and it was still special. Although it went by so fast, it was mostly a blur. So that is another reason I loved the first look. I was focused on him in that moment (the first look) , instead of all the people looking at me, seeing all the people who I hadn’t seen until that point.
Post # 35
My family is thrilled with first look. Get the pictures done when everyone is fresh and glammed up – not after a 90 minute wedding mass and trying to hurry to the reception.
His family hasn’t had one before, but are all for it.
Post # 36
I found that most people were totally on board. It’s hard to deny that they make the most logistical sense. I’m actually trying to convince my friend to do a first look at her upcoming wedding.
Post # 37
My fiance and I recently decided to do the first look, as well. I actually always thought I wouldn’t want to do the first look, but the more I thought about the day, the more I felt it was necessary. First off, I think having those few minutes with your sweetie will be so nice, especially since the majority of the day will be hectic and filled with your guests (very little time for just the two of you). The biggest reason why we decided to do a first look though was because we didn’t want that super long wait in between ceremony and reception. We want a cocktail hour, but we want to keep it to an actual 60 minutes instead of 2-3 hours. We also want to be able to mingle with our guests during cocktail hour. This way, we don’t have to worry as much about saying hello to everyone during the reception and we can enjoy the celebration more with each other.
I didn’t mean to write a book, but what I’m trying to say is, I think your family and guests will understand. And they’ll likely be happy about it since that means there won’t be such a long and dreadful wait between ceremony and reception. If you do a first look, you may as well get the photos out of the way before ceremony and save some time! Also, your makeup and hair will be perfectly fresh for the photos 🙂