Post # 16
Thanks everyone! I think what makes it tricky is the fact that cocktails and dinner/dancing are in the same room. What we’ll likely do is be introduced 15-20 minutes into cocktail hour, have the band announce that everyone should continue to enjoy cocktails and hors d’oeuvres until dinner is served. Then, once we’re about ready for dinner service, fiance and I can do our first dance, have dinner and proceed with the rest of the formailities as scheduled. We both really liked the idea of being introduced into our first dance, but we’re not married to the idea.
Post # 17
NovemBride1415: we had about 1.5h between our ceremony and the cocktail hr to allow for family pics and travel to reception. We made it back about halfway through cocktail hr. We got to talk and mingle with most of our guests then. We and the wedding party went out and we’re anbounced and entered the room. We went directly into our first dance. We were able to sit and enjoy dinner as we had at least said hi to everyone. I would not change anything I did. I even got my welcome cocktail
ETa our cocktails and reception were in the same room.
Post # 18
We did our photos before the ceremony, then rode around for a little bit so we could have some quiet time together and get a few final photos in the car. The wedding party went right over. We caught about half of the cocktail “hour” (it was less), but I’m really glad we took the time to ourselves. They introduced us when we arrived art the venue.
Post # 19
NovemBride1415: We did photos beforehand, but immediately after the ceremony, Darling Husband and I went and did some photos just us. Took maybe about 25 mins. I really wanted “authentic” just-married pictures that captured the emotion post-ceremony. Our cocktail hour was an hour long, so we were able to go to the last half. Our bridal party wasn’t introduced, just immediately joined cocktail hour. We were introduced on the PA as we came into cocktail hour. Just your typical “may I present the Mr. and Mrs.”
I don’t think my bridal party minded not being introduced. I always find that an awkward part of being in a wedding, and they were all listed on our programs, so people could already have read who they were if they didn’t know them personally. Plus, more time to party. Our caterers were really sweet and saved us each a plate of the passed hors d’oeuvres.
I really like the way we did it.
Post # 20
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
NovemBride1415: I was in my cousin’s wedding where we all, including the bridal party, got to enjoy the cocktail hour (which was so appreciated). After a bit of mingling, the bridal party was taken out, people went to their seats, and then everyone was introduced (and bride and groom went right into the first dance). It worked out really nicely.
FWIW, we’re also planning on doing most of our photos before hand (less a few full family photos–we have big families, and I do want photos with everyone. But I don’t want to see everyone before the ceremony, so keeping it to immediate family). We are planning on going to our venue to enjoy cocktail hour with our guests (I’m really looking forward to having a cocktail and some apps!) and I don’t think we will do a big introduction, if anything just us, not the rest of the bridal party.
We just want the fun to start!
Post # 21
DrunkInLove: This is what my fiance wants to do. I’m glad that it worked out nicely in your experience. I’ve always loved the intros at weddings. I know everyone already knows who we are and what they’re there for, but personally as a guest, the introductions are what usually gets me really excited and ready to party (as long as there is a good MC!), so I don’t want being around for cocktail hour to undermind that excitement.
Post # 22
DrunkInLove: NovemBride1415: same for us – we did 95% of the pics before the ceremony – then Darling Husband and I went back to our respective suites to freshen up etc and get ready for the wedding. The guys went out to the ceremony location via the side door (this is just how they do it at our venue so the groom party can walk in from the side of the ceremony location vs walking down the aisle – but he could have if he wanted to)
Then we did all the normal family procession, flower girls, bride and dad … etc and actually got married
once we (DH & I) walked up the aisle after being married we went immediately into a side room for a minute alone (where they had some drinks and food for us) and then once the rest of the people filed up to the cocktail hour (everything was in the same venue but different rooms/locations) we grabbed the extended families one and did the last few pictures (ie my mom whole side w Darling Husband and I, my dad’s, his mom’s etc) after that we basically walked into cocktail hour and enjoyed about 30+ minutes of it. When it was just about over they asked the bridal party to hang back and once people were in their seats we basically lined up outside the door to the dining room and were introduced one by one and immediately went into our first dance (then did the blessing and started on our salads)
Post # 23
We ran this idea past our coordinator and DJ because Fiance wanted to enjoy the cocktail hour. In the end, we decided it would be best to wait until the beginning of the reception so we could have a more “dramatic” entrance. Our plan is to do first look photos and the majority of our photos before the ceremony. Following the ceremony, we’ll do extended family photos since we have a lot of family coming that we rarely see and it’s not often they’re all in one place like that. We should finish up photos with about half an hour left in cocktail hour. With that time, we will go back to the groom’s suite they have in our venue and get some alone time and eat our dinner while cocktail hour finishes up. When the reception starts, we’ll be introduced and we’ll get the chance to make our rounds and say hello to all the guests as they’re eating.
Post # 24
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
littlemisshostess: I love hearing this worked well. It’s so funny how weird people (read: parents) get about “how things should go”. We are at two venues (a few blocks apart). I think by the time everyone gets to the venue from the cathedral, we’ll have mostly wrapped up photos and can head over ourselves and not miss too much of the cocktail hour.
Post # 25
We’ll probably do the majority during the ceremony and during cocktail hour. Fiance refuses to miss cocktail hour. He’s already excited about bacon wrapped scallops lol
Post # 26
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We took 15 minutes to ourselves (with our son) immediately after the ceremony, just to drink it all in. Then we headed down to cocktail hour to enjoy and mingle. I absolutely ate and drank my way through cocktail hour. Mr. LK and I had a server assigned to attend entirely to us. It was her job to make sure that we never had an empty glass or wanted for food the entire evening. It was fantastic.
To your question- We completely skipped all of the wedding-y stuff like announcements, garter and bouquet tosses, cake cutting, formal first dance, parent dances, etc. Those sorts of events just were not our style.
Post # 27
NovemBride1415: We took all of our pics before the ceremony, which then allowed us time to greet guests as they entered our reception hall. Granted, some showed up earlier than we thought so it was more of a “oh, who haven’t I said hi to yet”, but it was nice seeing everyone come in.
We actually didn’t get introduced, which I look back and wish we did. Darling Husband just didn’t want to, although we could have had one of his cousins (who works in radio) do them quickly. They would have been before we sat for dinner. I think doing that would have helped transition from cocktail hour to dinner. But, oh well.