Bees who didn’t have bridal showers?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i’m not having a shower, my friends want to throw me one, but i just dont want one… i just want to focus my energy time and money on one big day, rather than multiple showers and dinners.. i didnt have an engagement party, and am not having a rehearsal dinner[nothing against ppl who do want them but they are just not for me]just plain old wedding ceremony and reception for me.

Post # 5
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I didn’t have a shower… or a bachelorette! We wanted the wedding to be very low key and just the two of us, so aside from our witnesses, no one was involved in the ceremony (no bridal party). So no one thought of celebrating before the wedding.

That’s fine, because before WB, I didn’t know there were showers for weddings (I thought they were only for babies); and I’m not the bachelorette party type of gal. I would have loved it if my girlfriends would have invited me for dinner before the big day or something, but it didn’t happen, so what are you going to do?!

Post # 6
2634 posts
Sugar bee

I didn’t have a shower, but that is mainly because I didn’t want one.  It is my second wedding and it just didn’t feel right to me.  I am having a b-party though, but that is only because I didn’t have one the first time around and my Maid/Matron of Honor wants to throw me one bery badly!

Post # 7
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve been engaged since 2008. And no one has mentioned a shower to me at all! I’m sure they will have at least one for me though. I have a pretty big family. I don’t really think they would say something until a little closer to the wedding. 

Post # 8
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I did not have, did not want one and vocalized it. We had a very small intimate wedding and only a 3 mth engagement, by choice I will say. Well the small, intimate wedding pissed some family off so really, I did not want to deal with them with a shower either. Showers are not really my thing anyways, I get really uncomfortable in large groups and attention.

Post # 10
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i think its way too early for you to assume you won’t get a shower or any other pre-wedding parties, so don’t get bummed out yet! I know its really easy to think that no one gives a damn about your wedding/marriage, especially given how much time and money goes into planning one.

But It sounds like your family is pre-occupied with a sick family member right now, so that explains some of it. FYI, my shower plans started coming together only about 2 weeks before my actual shower date. Two weeks! For my actual wedding, people only got excited around the week of, and thats because people start arriving. So just try to remember that people are preoccupied with their own lives right now, but when your wedding date is much closer, people WILL be very excited and happy for you, I promise.


Post # 11
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I didn’t have a shower, but I don’t understand why it’s a big deal either. My sister made sure to have a bach. party when she came out and that was fun and small.

Post # 12
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didn’t have one either. I’m the last to be married in my huge family; others had showers, but no one has offered to throw me one. I didn’t think I cared, but when I hear of other brides having showers, I do feel the *tiniest* twinge of jealousy, which I would never admit except on here! 

Post # 13
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I almost didnt have a shower.  Until a couple weeks before the wedding one had not been planned for me.  We ended up having a mini shower that was combined with our nails appointment.  It was 2 days before the wedding.  Just my bridesmaids, aunts, grandma & cousins were there.  MIL’s flight got delayed and couldn’t make it.  I was bummed at first with not getting one but then grateful but upset it had to get thrown together at the last minute.

Post # 15
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didn’t have one, and wasn’t disappointed (I didn’t want one), so I don’t know how much help I will be!!

One thing I will say though, is don’t assume that your family aren’t excited because they don’t throw you a shower. My mom isn’t “girly” (we didn’t cry when we bought my dress, she didn’t throw me a shower, didn’t cry at the wedding, etc.), but she is super excited I am married! If it’s not their personalities to throw parties, and your friends/family are not that social, it might not really occur to them to throw one for you – but it doesn’t mean they are not happy for you! 🙂
If it means a lot to you – I might casually mention it to a couple of your friends, and see what they say.

Post # 16
877 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My BMs have offered throw me a shower, I’m not having one out of choice.  I really don’t like attending showers and I don’t care about getting gifts.

There’s still over a year until your wedding, so don’t get too discouraged at this point! 🙂

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