Brides who normally hate shopping: was dress shopping fun? Did you go alone?

posted 5 months ago in Dress
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I took my best friend first, just the two of us with no intention to buy(like told the saleswoman up front I didnt want to know exact pricing and just needed to try) it was super casual and felt great that there was no expectation. I already had another appointment scheduled with my future mother in law(who I knew was going to be a bit much) I had way more fun with my bestie, we were able to get in and out of dresses quickly and assess what I liked and didnt. It was more difficult with future mil, she was being picky and trying to build a dress rather than listen to what I liked. I ended up getting something I love, idk how she felt about it, but its mine at the end of the day

 She’ll freak when she sees the alterations I’m sure…oh well

Post # 32
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Worker bee

I really hate shopping, especially as a wedding dress usually requires strangers helping you in it, ugh!

I did my research to find out EXACTLY what I wanted, so no hesitation to what I’d try on.

I tried on dresses once and knew exactly what I wanted so went for it.

I don’t think it’s weird to go alone, I feel like being on your own means you ONLY get your point of view and not be pressured by what family want to see you in.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

I went by myself, and I didn’t particularly enjoy it. It was more of a necessity to me than a fun thing. But I felt that way about most of our wedding decisions. I enjoyed the wedding itself, but the planning wasn’t fun to me. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I hate shopping normally, especially shopping for clothing. I surprisingly really enjoyed my dress shopping experience. I did bring people with me, but I don’t see anything wrong with going on your own. I feel like it is easier to not have the pressure of other people’s opinions.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I don’t like shopping, but I did enjoy my experience shopping for wedding dresses.

I made appointments at 5 different shops over about 2 weeks. I decided I would go to all of the shops alone for the first visit, and then pick one or two shops with my top pick dresses and bring my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor along to actually buy my dress.

I liked going to my appointments alone, actually. It took the pressure off for me. First, I could tell my consultant from the beginning that I’d need to bring my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor back for a second appointment before I bought my dress, so they didn’t try doing the hard sell on me. I never felt weird for going alone. Also, I didn’t have different opinions on the dresses besides my own. So I could feel truly confident in my choice without worrying I was influence by other opinions.

I went to David’s Bridal first, but I feel like I could have skipped it. There were some nice dresses, but nothing I really loved. And honestly, the prices were on par with the local boutiques I went to. I also wish I had done a bit more research on all of the shops first, because one that I went to had, like, 10 dresses total in the entire store lol. That was a waste of time.

One shop was a discount shop where they just sold samples, they actually had a few options for me, but I felt kind of constricted as far as options because you can’t try on any dress you want and then order it in whatever size you are. I do think discount bridal shops are nice if you’re on a strict budget, I did find a couple of nice dresses (but they just weren’t the one).

The other two shops I went to were large local boutiques. I had a great experience at both of them. The first one, there were a few dresses I loved, and one I left pretty sure it was going to be the one I was going to buy. But I wanted to go to the last boutique, just to make sure. And I’m glad I did, because I found a dress that I LOVED and I knew immediately it was the one. I found a couple others I loved as well, but nothing compared after I tried that dress on.

When I went back for my second appointment with my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor to try on my dress and buy it, it was a great experience as well. My consultant let me stay in the dress for a while, didn’t pressure me or anything. Once I was done showing it off lol, she took my measurements and consulted with me about which size to order. She showed me my measurements and the sizing chart for my dress, which made me feel better that I was ordering the correct size, so I liked that.

All in all, I’m glad I went shopping alone for the first appointments. And if I could go back, I’d probably skip David’s Bridal and the one shop with only 10 dresses. In my experience, at least, most local boutiques have the same size selection (or better) than David’s Bridal, so I don’t think it’s necessary to go there first unless you don’t have large local boutiques in your area.

Oh, also trying on dresses wasn’t as bad as when I go shopping and try on clothes. I did a lot of research beforehand to figure out which types of dresses I liked, and mostly stuck to those. My first appointment at David’s Bridal, the consultant convinced me to try on other styles of dresses to be sure, which was fine because it confirmed that, yep, I was right that A Line dresses were what I needed to stick to. And also in general, I feel like wedding dresses are much more flattering than the flimsy dresses you try on in stores usually, so that also helps.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I was overwhelmed and wanted to be done with it. I went with my mom and sister and mother in law. I kind of wish I would have went with one person initially and looked at a few more places. I did feel limited in my selection because I’m plus size 18 but then my boobs make me go up a size or two. Where some good shapewhere. One place put me in a bustier that fit my boobs and it made huge difference in how I looked in dresses. Take someone who likes similar styles and gets what you like. I went to one store hated everything and went to another store and loved all the dresses. Just know if your not likeing anything at one store it doesn’t mean you won’t find something. I really helped having pictures to look at. I initially was torn between two similar dresses but when I got home I realized I hated the beading on one and that the other dress fit much better.  My final advice is to wash your face the minute you get home those dresses can be dirty and I ended up breaking out after from them all being pulled over my face. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

So i hate shopping, i walk in and out a store in a heartbeat becuase i cant be bothered to put myself through it. 

I went with my mum and sister, i knew it meant a lot to them and i trusted their judgement. It was pretty nice, it wasnt all lovely and happy like on TV but it was alright. i went to a small local boutique so there wasnt any other brides there to make me feel inadequate or anything, and it meant i had the assistants full attention. 

It is a bit awkward trying on different styles, especially when there were ones that really werent flattering but i found its best to just go nope, this isnt for me move on to the next instead of standing there trying to find a positive. 

Dont feel like you need to be polite about a dress you hate just because of the assistant!

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Baltimore, MD

I loathe shopping!

I was 99% positive I would go dress shopping by myself, even though my mom and sister wanted to go too. I ended up taking a friend who had recently bought a dress at the same shop. I had fun with her, and she said when I tried on THE dress, she knew, because I looked so right in it. But she kept any comments or opinions to herself until I had decided, because she didn’t want her input to influence me, which I greatly appreciated!

I worried that if my family had gone with me, they would make negative comments about all of the dresses I tried on, especially the one I fell in love with. I wouldn’t change the way I dress shopped, even though it’s not for most people.

Post # 39
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Helper bee

I had a mixed experience. I went with my mom alone who doesn’t wear dresses, but who knows how weird my style is. I started at BHLDN and had an amazing experience – we were in a private room, away from anybody else and they gave us WINE! I’m a size 14 so feared trying on dresses but they had all the dresses I wanted in my size! 

The second place I went was David’s Bridal. We went to the absolute last appointment of the day on a Sunday and it was also pouring rain, so it was just the stylist and us. The stylist was a plus-size girl and she understood right away that I was looking for something different, and she found lots of awesome dresses. She was so nice and I fit in everything again, and it was great.

Then I went to a private boutique that carried a particular brand I wanted to try. When I got there, the stylist did NOT seem interested, and acted like my budget was too small to warrant her spending time on me. She kept randomly selecting dresses that were in direct opposition to what I wanted. I told her I wanted a small dress without tulle, preferably with a column or mermaid cut, no beads at all, avoid lace, and nothing transparent. She kept putitng me in monstrously huge ballgowns with beading and huge skirts, and once when I called her out, she twisted up the skirt and said, “here, if you stick it between your legs, you can see it without the tulle. You can buy one this way, and then our alterations team can remove the tulle,” as if it made sense to buy a $1000 dress and then spend $700 on alterations to remove 3/4 of the material. I was furious when I left and I left a nasty (but honest) review on yelp for them.

I ended up going back to BHLDN, found my soft dress with no beads, no lace, no tulle, totally comfortable to dance in.

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Post # 40
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Sugar bee

I hate shopping, but had a lot of fun wedding dress shopping! I think it was more fun for three reasons

1) We went to small bridal boutiques where it’s either just you or just a couple people, there aren’t a zillion dresses, and the shop owners help pick things and give advice

2) I went with my sisters and mum who are the most fun

3) Champagne 

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