Post # 1
We’re 14 months away from our wedding, and we’ve booked a decent number of the “big” vendors: venue, music, photographer, etc. After the initial meetings and contract exchanges, I haven’t felt the need to contact any of these vendors — I figure they’re busy with weddings happening NOW, I already have the signatures and deposit confirmations, and I’m still working on other wedding things anyway.
My mother… disagrees. She thinks I should at least e-mail the vendors once every few months just to “check in”.
Now don’t get me wrong, I do plan on staying in touch at least somewhat, and if I need to ask any questions (i.e. what are the table dimensions again? Who has used our room block?) I certainly will do so. But… sending a useless, potentially distracting e-mail when they’re all trying to concentrate on more immediate concerns feels wrong.
So for those Bees who planned pretty far in advance, what did you do?
Post # 3
I only contacted my vendors when I had questions. I don’t think there is any point of ‘checking in’.
Post # 4
I emailed my venue once every few months when I had questions (When can we schedule a tasting? How many tables will be set up at cocktail hour?) but I don’t see the value in just checking in.
Post # 5
If you don’t have a question for them right now, I honestly don’t see the point in ‘checking in’. The only checking in I have been doing is to pay down my balances 🙂
Post # 6
Our engagement will be 22 months when it’s finally over, and we booked a lot of the big stuff really early. I only contact the vendors when I have questions!! No need to check-in.
Post # 7
@plantains: That’s actually the argument I used on my mother — I’ll contact them when I owe them money! It didn’t go over so well, but I’m sticking to it…
Post # 8
After we signed our contract for the reception I didn’t plan on hearing from the wedding coordinator for awhile (it’ll be a year out tomorrow 🙂 ) but last week we got an email reminding us to reserve room blocks to ensure prices now, so that was a nice reminder. We have not turned in our contracts for DJ and Photographer yet, we just have to write the check and put in the mail, but from our understanding the DJ website is very thorough on what we want and how we want it, so in that case, it will be a ‘us keep up with them’. But i think that unless you feel as though you should have contact with one of your vendors about a specific thing then contact them if they haven’t. Also, there’s a few questions I have for the coordinator, so instead of constantly emailing her and asking them or calling, we are keeping track of them in a month or so get them together and ask her. But it my questions were more pressing i would call now.
Post # 9
I agree with PPs, I only contact my vendors at this point if we need to schedule a meeting or if I have questions. Just “checking in” may come across as being high maintanence. I think that fact that your mom is suggesting this shows a bit of a generation difference. With the conveniences that we have today such as e-mail, web calendars, and smartphones, it takes a lot of pressure off the bride to have to “remind” the vendors about their date. Good vendors will have everything under control!
Post # 10
I planned 1 yr in advanced so I understand. I don’t do “check ins” but if I have a question, I send them a quick email (and I guess that’s my way of “checking in”)
But, I don’t see any reason to do so if the contracts have been drawn up. My vendors actually send me emails or “check ins” to make sure I’m doing good.
Hope this helps!
Post # 11
I say once every few months is a lil excessive if you’re 14 months away – I’d only chesk in once before the 8 month mark and then let things progress naturally after that 🙂