(Closed) Brides who wore heels AND flats – please help!

posted 7 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: Should I wear the heels or flats??
    Heels : (14 votes)
    61 %
    Flats : (9 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I LOVE heels, so if your Fiance doesn’t feel weird being the same height/shorter with your poofy hair I would say go for the heels!! I would bring the flats to switch into after your feet start hurting.

    Post # 4
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    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m all about comfort.  I go for flats.  However, if you love wearing heels, and you’ll feel more confident and sexier in them, work dem heels!

    You’re not towering over Fiance.  I think you would look great beside him either way.

    Post # 5
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    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Id switch. I am wearing low heels for the wedding ceremony because I love heels.. but I am going to have flats for the pictures because Fiance is only an inch taller than me and doesnt want to be shorter than me in the pictures.

    Post # 6
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    This may sound weird but your shoulders are still shorter so you won’t really look taller.  I have the exact same problem though and I am still trying to figure out what I should do. Thanks for posting!

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think in the first picture he does look slightly taller than you, so I think you’re fine with wearing the short heels.

    My SIL is taller than my brother so she wore flip flops at their wedding.  She was still very beautiful, but I could tell her walk was a bit different being in flats.  It was more casual.  If you do decide to go with flats, I think if they’re dressy enough, your walk will be okay…..but I def feel sexier in heels as well.  I think I stand up straighter.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Have you thought about lifts? I’m wearing 3 inch heels for pictures, the ceremony (because there will be pictures taken during the ceremony!) and the first dance, so Fiance is going to wear short lifts in his shoes to make him a bit taller. For the rest of the reception, I’m going to wear flats and he’s going to take out his lifts. Our natural height difference will be more prominent, but that would happen to any bride who switches from heels to flats.

    Post # 9
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    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I had the same dilemma.  My fiance’s only a couple inches taller than me, and I was afraid I’d feel like I was towering over him.  And I didn’t want to be looking at pictures for the rest of our lives with me being taller. 

    I tried on a couple pairs of shoes with him, one a flat and one with a 1 3/4 heel.  I really wanted shoes with some bling on them, like the flats, but I felt like the heels were overall sexier.  But after thinking about it (and all the people in the store telling me to get what felt more comfortable) I realized no one was going really see the shoes, except maybe a little bit of my toes peeping out under my dress. 

    If was wearing something shorter I’d probably have gone with the heels and put a shoe clip on them.  But I know my feel will get tired of standing all day long in heels and then I’d be annoyed that no one could even see them. 

    Post # 10
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    What about wearing the heels for the ceremony and flats for the reception? Then you get the best of both worlds!

    Post # 12
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    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I DEFINITELY think there’s a difference in the way women carry themselves when wearing heels. More grace, more confidence, better posture. Go with the heels–he still looks decently taller than you. Change into flats when/if your feet get sore.

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m wearing my heels for as long as I can then changing into my flats, probably at the ceremony. My heels are about 1 1/2″. I’ll be the same height as my Fiance with my heels.

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