(Closed) Brides whos BM’s didn’t come to shower?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

All my bm’s planned and came to my first shower.  Only my future SIL, who is a bm, came to my second shower.  I definitely didn’t expect them all to travel for both showers!  I had a good time at my second shower even though I didn’t know all the people and actually it was nice to get to know FI’s extended family better.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

One of my BM’s did not come to my shower, but she lives in another province so I wasn’t expecting her to, but at the same time she didn’t even RSVP, nor has she asked me about it!!  I’m a little bummed!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Same thing with me.  All 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man, plus the junior bridesmaid and flowergirl, came to my first shower, which was for my side of the family thrown by my aunt.  Only 2 BMs (my best friend & my new SIL) came to the second shower, thrown by my Mother-In-Law & SIL.  The junior bridesmaid (my husband’s goddaughter) and the flowergirl (my MOH’s daughter) both came (even though Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t… Flower Girl came with my mom).  Would’ve been nice to have them all at both, but no big deal.  They had other commitments already that day.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m having 3 showers, and not all of them are coming to each one. 3 came to the one this past Saturday, 2 will be there this Saturday, and then 4 will be there on Sunday. I have 7 bm’s total, but they live all over the place so I really don’t mind to be honest. I know they can’t be at all of them.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had two showers, 2/5 bridesmaids at the first (both my sisters) and 2/5 bridesmaids at the second (one of my sisters and his sister). So, my one sister went to both. All the bridesmaids did make it out for my bachelorette though. And, they’ll all be at the wedding. 🙂

Honestly, I was so happy to see all the other people at the showers that it didn’t really matter to me who wasn’t there.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would expect the BMs to attend one shower but not all or both (in your case).  It sounds like you really only have issue with one Bridesmaid or Best Man who isn’t attending either.  Does she have a valid reason?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

3 of my girls wont be at the one my Future Mother-In-Law is throwing. I am by no means upset. The shower will be awkard enough. It will be me and 20 women I have never met. My mom is going my Maid/Matron of Honor and the Bridesmaid or Best Man who is my roommate. His mom lives with us (my Fiance and my one Bridesmaid or Best Man and myself), so she is kind of obligated. 

Are’t you BMs throwing you a shower?

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