(Closed) Brides with dress regret, yet kept the dress???

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Aw, what is it specifically that you don’t like about the dress? Do you have a photo of yourself in it?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I think you need to rethink your definition of “unable to pull off,” because your figure looks fantastic. You have a lovely hourglass shape in the gown, and it looks 100x better on you than the shapeless thing the model is wearing. Also, you’re tall and curvy? Instantly jealous.

At the same time, I see what you’re saying. The A-line shape just sort of swallows your bottom half without actually flattering it, and the super structured duchess satin makes the skirt fall in a stiff, literal “A” shape. 

I like where you’re headed with the changes you listed above. I definitely think that will help inject more personality into your overall look. 

Would you consider altering the shape of the skirt at all? You can either go:

more drastic (column)                     or more subtle (pinned fit-and-flare)

       

or more in-between (dropped waist) you can have the seamstress take in the dress down past your hips to give it a more trumpet-like, modified A-line look (not sure how feasible this is, though or if it’ll turn out like in my head)

These shapes would look all look phenomenal with your body shape and maybe you won’t have to feel sad when you look back on your photos

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MlleFabuleux:  You beat me to it! I was going to recommend adding more pleating to the ruching, making it more assymetrical, and instead if adding an all around bling belt, maybe adding a gorgeous brooch to the right side where the ruching is narrower, I feel like that plus the sweetheart neckline would be super flattering and very very original and elegant! Something like the bottom right picture you posted!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  Did you take it to a bridal salon for the alterations quote? I saved myself almost $250 by going to an independant seamstress.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  I had dress regret, I loved my dress and when I bought it, it was in my top few I wanted to try on.  I had done quite a bit of googling and research before I went dress shopping for the first time.  But I bought it that same day (the 2nd one I tried on) as I was told by the first shop I went to you have left it too late (it was 9 months out from the wedding), and they freaked me out a bit and said they couldnt fit me in for a fitting & told me I would be lucky to get one in time (which now I realise was scare tactics).  So I went to the 2nd shop and found one of the ones I had liked, and it was 30% off for that day only, so of course I bought it. πŸ™‚ Then a few weeks later we postponed the wedding for 6 months as it was a Destination Wedding and the timing didnt suit a few people. Then I got dress regret, I wished I hadnt bought it for so long, I worried it would be too old, I kept seeing others ones I thought were better.  Then I had a bad fitting as it was too tight (have another post here about it), & if I could have I would have bought another.  But I couldnt risk losing my money & the shop didnt have any others I liked better. But I had my last fitting a few weeks again and fell in love with it again.  I am only 18 days out from my wedding & I will not be changing mine :-).

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@minipenguin:  Great minds and all… πŸ˜‰

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  You’re welcome. I hope you are happier with your dress once all of the changes have been made. I think you have a great base, and it can only get better! Instead of thinking of your dress as plain or boring, think of it as a blank canvas–one that only needs some personalised touches to make your whole look shine. πŸ™‚

As for the alterations cost, you could also try using a brooch to sort of “pull” the skirt down to a point, instead of fully altering the skirt. I’ve done this with lighter fabrics, so I’m not sure if it’ll work (but you never know)!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  You’re right, pulling out the crinoline will definitely help “loosen” things up, and it should help the material to fall better. The underlayers are what’s propping the skirt up in that perfect “A.”

And please, ask away, that’s what these boards are for!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  thank you!  I was so busy raving on about my own dress regret I didnt mention anything about your dress but I think it is a beautiful dress.  It is not boring at all & I think it looks great on you.  I am sure your Fiance must be saying just buy a new one as he wants you to be happy with your choice (and if he is like my Fiance he doesnt want to hear about it for the rest of his life haha).  I suggest trying the dress on again, maybe go for a fitting by yourself and take your time, and see how you feel.  Best of luck.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Trust me you are going to look fantastic in that beautiful, classic dress hun πŸ™‚ 

I had some dress regret because I just loved too many styles out there, but I was never going to purchase a second one (couldn’t afford that kind of mistake!). The week before the wedding I could only see how fat fat fat my thunder thighs looked in it, gaping bits, every issue under the sun. But on your wedding day you’ll be too happy to concern yourself with imaginary flaws and realise how beautiful you look. Especially with your makeup done and jewellery on, you’ll be the prettiest version of yourself.. And that will shine through in your photos too. You chose your dress for a reason. Trust your instincts, you will look GORGEOUS!!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Have you considered selling the dress and maybe purchasing a new dress with the cash? Maybe you could find a sample at a cheaper cost?

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