Post # 1
So I’ve been going through the recap photos of some bees and a sad thought crossed my mind. My father passed away 10 years ago (we weren’t that close) so as far as family goes I really only have my mom and sister.
My mom came out and admitted she doesn’t get excited about things anymore. She didn’t get emotional at all when I tried my dress on for first time. My mother in law was in tears. Based on this I know my mom won’t be any sort of sentimental when I am getting ready.
My sister has made it very clear she’ll be showing up in time for the wedding and that’s it (she’s not staying for the dinner or reception). She has “no” to being a bridesmaid or even coming to the rehearsal dinner.
I’m marrying into an amazing family who treats me like their own. So I’m really lucky there. But it still hurts deep down inside knowing my own family doesn’t care. I just look at all these beautiful photos of brides and their family and I feel like I will be missing out on that. Any other brides have a heavy heart about this kind of stuff on their big day? How did you get past it?
Post # 3
@coolbride125: I’m so sorry you are dealing with this! My family is much less sentimental than my husbands family, they show their caring in different ways. My husbands family stayed for pictures in every possible combination, and my family took the important ones and headed out (of course, they had wedding things to do so I don’t fault them at all).
Fortunately you will not be part of a very loving, wonderful new family as well as your family of birth. I would keep them close and enjoy the celebration of you joining their family. Good luck!
Post # 4
I just wanted to offer up a virtual hug to you.
My mom hasn’t asked a single question about anything wedding related. I called her when we got engaged, I called her when I bought my dress (my Future Mother-In-Law went shopping with me), I called her when when we chose the venue…see a pattern?
My younger brother got married last May, so maybe she’s just wedding-ed out, who knows?
So I feel you on that point. And it SUCKS.
I mean, I love my Future Mother-In-Law (even though sometimes she tries to help TOO much), but it isn’t the same.
I’m sorry I don’t have any advice, but I want you to know you’re not alone.
Post # 5
@coolbride125: Life isn’t perfect. My family is ok I guess but my in laws are evil. Be happy you are marrying into such a wonderful loving family.
Post # 6
My mom gets angry and vents all her stress on me when I ask to go dress shopping… she’s looking after her other adult children and does a lot for them–every week is another catastrophe–but I feel like I’m just another one of those things she has to deal with. I’m the youngest so I think she was more exited for the children who came before me…
Post # 7
@coolbride125: Yes, I am feeling the same way. My mom died when I was a kid and I don’t feel like my other female family members would contribute any sentiment at my wedding. This is part of the reason I’m eloping. It’s really hard to think about trying on dresses and getting ready for my ceremony without them there. It sucks, but you aren’t alone in feeling like this. Also, not to state the obvious but there’s a whole board full of people here who love to hear the wedding details, love to help with decisions and love to gush over wedding photos. I’m not saying that it’s the same by any means, but for me it’s been helpful to have that extra attention. I don’t think there is a good way to get over it, but if you ever want to talk or bitch, feel free to PM me. I’m glad your future ILs are great, mine are too 🙂