(Closed) Brides with Step Parents…Questions!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

You’re lucky, that’s usually not the case.  My dad walked me down the aisle and my mom helped me get ready.  I had bouts for my dad and stepdad as well as corsages for my mom and stepmom.  I would suggest getting a picture of you and your biological parents alone so you have one picture of the happy family you come from.

Post # 5
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Talk to your dad about it.  My dad would have been very uncomfortable with that and since I am my father’s only daughter I didn’t want to hurt his feelings over it.  My stepdad has two other daughters that he will (hopefully) have the opportunity to walk down the aisle someday.  For the father-daughter dance I danced with my dad until the first chorus and then we invited my stepdad to dance with his daughter on the dance floor with us.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

@inky_1: I have a dad and stepdad as well, and my stepdad has been just like a father to me since I was 6. But yes, I am still quite close with my biological dad and he’s an amazing father as well. So I understand!

I am having both my dad and stepdad walk me down the aisle. Then, my stepdad is going to act as MC for our introductions. Once we are all introduced, we are actually going to do the toasts first. Best man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and then my stepdad will do the traditional father of the bride toast. At the end of his toast, he is going to announce that I will be dancing with my dad for the father daughter dance. (then we will do mother/son, and Fiance and I’s first dance.. it is backwards from most weddings I’ve been to, but it works for us very well!)

This gives him his own sort of… shall we say… spotlight? Also, technically it’s more like my mom and stepdad are hosting, so he is kind of in the position to play host more by introducing himself and giving a speech. And, for him… he liked the idea of HIM announcing that I would be dancing with my father, rather than just sort of standing on the side line. It makes him feel just as important (like its his way of letting everyone know he’s ok with this arrangement?) and I still share the traditional dance with my dad 🙂

Also.. it just works. My dad will be a bucket of tears ALL DAY and prob couldn’t get a word out. Bill-dad does very well talking to people and he’s not as much of a cryer 😛

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

P.S., beachbride1216 does have a point about whether or not you have sisters/stepsisters… I am my father’s only child, and my mom and stepdad had my younger brother after they got married, so I’m my stepdad’s only daughter. I HAD to make sure they were both very included in the day, but if you have sisters, they may not be as hurt if they have to share you somehow…

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