(Closed) Brides Younger than 25

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 62
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m 20 and FI’s 27. Growing up I was encouraged to get married in my late 20’s. My parents married at 30 and my mom said that was the best decision she ever made because she had a blast being single through her 20’s. His parents married at 20 so they think he’s far behind and mine think I’m rushing things. It’s been tough to work out a common ground. The deal he made with my dad was that I have to graduate college first which is fine with me. I’ll be a month away from being 22 when we get married and he’ll be a few away from 29. Yesterday was the first time I’ve had a negative comment about my engagement. My good friend’s older brother said statiscally because of my age we’ll probably get divorced so “might as well get the first one out of the way, right?” I was so angry. Before I met my Fiance (we’ve been together for 3 years in January) I never imagined being married before 25. I guess you can’t plan these things. I love him to death and can’t wait to marry my best friend.

 

I posted this in a different section.. actually in “waiting” oops! I’m not waiting anymore. 🙂 This thread seems to fit this comment much better though.

Post # 63
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MissComicBook: You won’t believe how many people have told me I should sleep around and ‘live my life’. Till the day Fiance and I are trying to figure what everyone means with ‘live your life’, for us it means to be with the person you love and we can’t wait.

Post # 64
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@EmilyJean: I got that comment too and I couldn’t believe that had actually come out of someone’s mouth! My parents were divorced when I was two so I know the kind of damage that does to the life of every person involved. I will fight tooth and nail to never do that kind of damage to me or my SO.

Post # 65
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@EmilyJean: Lame silly boy, out of the guest list, who says that? It’s awfully rude.

Post # 66
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Coffee cup: I agree completely! I love the life I live now, I hated being single and going from guy to guy (I never slept around, but I saw my fair share of guys before I “settled down” with my SO, including one extremely bad relationship). I feel bad for all the people who feel like the “need” to get their “wild days” out.

Post # 67
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ive gotten the sleep around suggestion too. I dont see where the satisfaction is in having countless meaningless sexual encounters with people when you could spend the rest of your days having meaningful sexual encounters with someone you love. 

Post # 68
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@AlbanianBride27: Exactly! I was raised in the belief that you shouldn’t have premarital sex, and so this idea is so foreign to me.

Edit: My beliefs have changed and I now feel that you should only have sex when you are ready for the responsibility of a child and you love that person.

Post # 69
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MissComicBook:, @AlbanianBride27: I guess some people tell us that cause we’be been together since we were 14/16 years old, but it doesn’t matter I think it’s really rude when you’re inloved with someone and excited about being with that person, for someone else to tell you you should let it go and go find someone else just cause they believe it’s not normal for you to be this inloved this young. LET US BE!

Post # 70
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Coffee cup: Exactly! I’m so lucky that my mother is so behind our engagement. I called her one day, absolutely blubbering because of what my friend had said to me and my mother reminded me that I’ve ALWAYS matured faster than anyone else my age, why should my wedding be any different?

Post # 71
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1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yay! More young brides! We got engaged when I was 21 he was 23, and we will be married when I’m 23 and he is 25. We had been dating since I was 17 and he was 19 though! High school sweethearts and all. 🙂 So far we have the venue and the dress..and that it.

Post # 72
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Roux: That’s so sweet! Dress pic?

Post # 73
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Honestly, my mom said she’d be disappointed if I waited to have sex until marriage. She doesn’t want me to sleep around but she encouraged me to test it before I bought it haha. Living in the midwest people always gasp when I say this. I love her for her realism and honesty.

Post # 74
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@EmilyJean: Haha, my Mom would never tell me that, but she did encourage us in the fact that we were living together before we got married.

Post # 75
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MissComicBook: You’re lucky your mom’s supporting you. We haven’t told our parents yet, since we know they think we’re too young, we’re waiting until we book our venue. Taking the bull by the horns.

Post # 76
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Coffee cup: My Dad isn’t happy. He knows we plan on getting engaged, but because I don’t really care about his opinion, I told my SO not to ask for his permission and I think that he is waiting for that and annoyed that he hasn’t.

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