(Closed) Bridesmaid 2 weeks before my wedding : /

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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lyssag222:  I think you two need an agreement that you won’t expect any help with each other’s weddings beyond being at events. You do not need to plan 2 weddings. You need to plan 1 wedding: yours. (And your fiance should be the main person stepping up and helping).

You’re not needed on all of Thursday and Friday. Feel free to leave after a couple of hours of the Thursday bachelorette party so that you can still work Friday. And the Friday rehearsal (and dinner if there is one) should be fairly low stress.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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lyssag222:  You’re not planning two weddings. You’re planning yours. Sure, you can help her but really that is her and her FIs job, not yours whatsoever. Same goes for yours Rely on your Fiance and not her.

Also, if youre a good planner who takes time to get everything all set, you really shouldn’t be overly stressed before your wedding. Make a list of what you need to get done each day prior to YOUR wedding so you can plan accordingly. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Our best friends got married the weekend before us 8 hours away. My husband had to fly there from across the world because he got sent on a business trip for work the week before our wedding. I was in their wedding, and the other couple was our officiant/groomsmen. It was crazy, busy, stressful and so much fun! 2 straight weeks of celebrating love with my best friends. It wasn’t how I pictured it, i thought I’d be crazy stressed but honestly, it was no big deal. Make sure you are done with everything you can before their wedding so you can relax and have fun. I finished everything I could 2 weeks before my wedding so I could relax. We didn’t stay for the brunch at their wedding so we could fly home and finish stuff. They totally understood. Don’t feel obligated to attend her bachelorette on Thursday if you are really overwhelmed, she should understand. 

Not sure what else to tell you, except you just handle it. You’ll be fine.  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I can’t speak to the illness part, but my best friend and I had weddings two weeks apart (she was a bridesmaid and I officiated hers) and it was just fine. We were both planned and organized enough that we weren’t trying to do anything last minute and could enjoy each other’s days, and it was really fun to share such a special time with them. Will you have some time after your wedding to rest and recover?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Why is your rehearsal a week before your wedding?  That sounds like a lot of extra work for you all.

Hopefully, a year from now your illness will be better under control.  Did they test your Vitamin levels also?  B12 deficiencies can make POTS worse.  http://potsgrrl.blogspot.com/2011/03/check-your-vitamin-levels.html

I think everything will work out.  Right now, you are in the major planning stage and it’s a lot. It will get better!  And it’s more fun to plan things with a friend!

 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t build things up in your mind to be bigger than they are.

You updated that you will only go to the dinner for the bachelorette= no big deal. You would have to eat dinner Thursday anyhow, and this way you don’t have to cook it.

Ditto with the rehearsal and dinner. You can sit down as much as possible in the actual rehearsal and also get another night off cooking. You do not have to linger and rink after. Go home and go to bed. I think SO’s should be included, but given that your Fiance is not, he can plan either a boys night out for that night, or a relaxing night at home.

The wedding on Saturday will require more of your time, but you can also schedule some breaks for yourself.

All of this and your own wedding are 9 months away. You have more than enough time to make sure you get everything on your list done ahead of time so you don’t have a last minute scramble and energy drain.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper

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lyssag222: 

Calmly, calmly OP, both weddings are ages away yet. Work  out ( sounds   like you already have  to soem degree) what  seems reasonable   and nearer the time  talk to each other about it .

I think you are just  having  a little pre-panic – it’ll be fine.    

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I have to agree with the pp’s saying they are both a bit away. Hopefully everything is squared away by then and all that is left is minor last minute things. I know this doesn’t really relate to your situation, but I don’t even have a date picked (we mentioned this year, then next, maybe be 2018 or even 2019) but I have about 80% planned. Unless the dressss are discontinued or they tear the venue down (unlikely since they just renovated it) it’ll be putting the pieces together and actually paying (I want to have as much as possible set aside so we can pay outright, no credit cards). I know planning 2-3 years away is probably a bad idea… but I’m a planner and otherwise I go nuts. 

Anyway, I’d do what you planned on doing, go to dinner, and show up at the wedding. Let the the other bridesmaids do the brunt of the work (and vice versa for her in yours) ans be done. 

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