(Closed) Bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

it’s so much easier spending other peoples money.  😉  i would just keep reminding her that they can’t afford to spend top dollar on everything, and they’re doing the best they can.  if she persists, let her know, flat out, she’s being rude and inappropriate… or ask her how much cash she’s contributing?!

Post # 4
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42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would say something – I would pull her to the side or invite her out for coffee and ask her about how’s she’s feeling with all the planning. My guess is that it may not have anything to do with money but more feeling left out or jealous, and if you can attend to those feelings in a meaningful way it may end/reduce the snarkiness. Encourage her to talk to the bride too, if feeling left out or if she’s suffering from “always a bridesmaid” syndrome. With her sister and now one of her best friends getting married, she may feel left behind or be afraid that she’s losing people that are important to her. Or, I could just be reading way too much into it.. but I would always check for hurt feelings first.

However, if it really does come down to money and a lack of class, you can remind her that it’s NOT her wedding, and that the polite thing to do is the be supportive of the bride and keep her damn trap shut otherwise 🙂

Post # 5
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987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i wouldn’t say anything to the other bridesmaid but continue to support your friend, the bride. 

Chances are that the bride knows what she is like if she is close enough to have her in the bridal party in the first place. 

Set a positive, good example and let the rest go.

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