Post # 1
Long story short … I’m unexpectedly (but happily) pregnant and due about 4 weeks before my best friend’s wedding. I haven’t told her yet – I’m waiting a couple more weeks in order to make sure things are going well with the pregnancy.
I’m just not sure what to do. I definitely don’t want to drop out of the wedding party or anything, but I’m just not sure if I’ll be able to be in the wedding with a potential 3 week old and I don’t want her to be disappointed in me for not being in it 100%. Her wedding’s about 6 hours away, so it would be a whole weekend affair with travel, staying at a hotel, etc.
What should I say to her? Offer to do whatever I can, but let her know that I’ll have some limitations? I already know I’ll have to miss the bachelorette party since it’s right around my due date, but I was thinking I could send a bottle of champagne or some fun stuff. Mothers, how were you feeling 3-4 weeks after delivery?
Post # 3
Tired from nursing every 2.5-3 hours and changing diapers but good otherwise. I got my body back pretty quickly, so was pleased. Everyone’s experiences are different, though! It’s not something that you can predict one way or the other.
Post # 4
My SIL was the Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding about a month after she had her baby. She kept ducking away to nurse and she didn’t dance all night or anything, but she had her husband there and also her Mother-In-Law to watch the baby. It really seemed to help–maybe you could bring your mom or your Mother-In-Law as an extra babysitter, especially during the ceremony! My niece definitely cried and had to be taken out.
Post # 5
Yes that’s a great idea … I could ask my mom to come along and help watch the baby (plus my husband will be there). The wedding’s in a hotel so if we had rooms upstairs it would be pretty easy to run up whenever we need to!
Post # 6
Just a couple things to maybe keep in mind- if your due date is 4 weeks before the wedding and you don’t plan to induce or schedule a C-section, you could easily deliver a week or even two late, so you may only have 2 weeks to recover. If there’s any chance you might have to have a C-section, that will also require a longer healing period.
Having your mom around to help sounds like a great idea- not only will you have someone to watch the baby, but she can also probably help you out and make YOU feel better if you’re feeling tired or having any trouble 🙂
I think sending a bottle of champagne to the bachelorette party sounds like a great idea.
I’ve never been in this situation as a mom, but my best friend from high school (and bridesmaid) dropped out of my wedding about a week before the wedding date (she was 7 months pregnant at the time and didn’t feel up to the travel). I didn’t fault her for her decision, but I just wish she’d told me sooner, and if she couldn’t be there on the day, I would have loved it if I’d gotten to see her more often during those early months when she WAS able to hang out and talk wedding stuff 🙂
Post # 7
@lilan312: How did this end up working out? One of my bridesmaids will have a 5-6 week old baby at my wedding. She is 30 weeks pregnant right now with a SUPER tiny belly due to her long torso (people are just starting to realize she’s actually pregnant and not just gaining some weight), but we’re still not sure how large of a dress to order for her. I am allowing her to order and alter her dress at the last minute and I plan to be flexible on our wedding day to allow her to nurse and spend time with her baby. Also, she will be traveling from out of state to attend my wedding. However, her husband, both of her parents, and her sister will be invited to the wedding, so hopefully they can help out. Any advice?