Post # 1
So I have five bridesmaids and two of them are from out of town. Back when I got engaged almost a year ago I told the two out of town bridesmaids that they could stay at my parents’ house during the day(s) leading up to the wedding and the night of the wedding I would pay for a hotel room for them to share near our reception venue. These girls happen to be very good friends with each other and have shared hotel rooms before, so I didn’t think it would be a big deal for them to share a room.
BUT, a few months ago, one of the out of town bridesmaids started dating someone, and it seems pretty serious. So I will probably be including her boyfriend on the wedding guest list, unless they break up before then. What am I supposed to do about accomodations now? I don’t really have room for an extra person at my house (also, I have never me the guy), and I feel like it would be weird to have the two bridesmaids plus the boyfriend in one hotel room. Paying for two hotel rooms isn’t really in the budget. I kind of wish I had waited until later to say anything about accomodations, but what do you think I should do if that one bridesmaid decides to bring her boyfriend to the wedding? Or if the other bridesmaid starts dating someone before the wedding also? Aaahh!
Post # 3
I think it’s ok to tell her that your parents wouldn’t be comfortable having an unmarried couple in their house, and that if they come together, they either need to get a hotel room or find somebody else that he can stay with. I doubt she’d want to stay at your parents’ house with her boyfriend, anyway. ; )
Post # 4
I think that at this point as ircumstances have changed she should understand that it’s now time for her to get her own room. Between the two of them I am sure that they can find a way to afford the room, otherwise i think that she should come alone.
It’s impolite to invite a guest to somewhere, where you are already a guest. No matter how close you are to the people you are staying with.
She’s your Bridesmaid or Best Man and I assume close you as well. I would simply ask her if she’s thought about accomodations if she intends to bring him. Make mention that there isn’t enough room at your parents house. I am sure she’s either thought of it or at least wil be understanding.
Post # 5
For the hotel situation, all 3 might share a hotel room. I had a friend come up with her husband and a mutual single friend attended the wedding. all 3 shared a room to save $. So just let them know that you are still willing to pay for one hotel room. then let them decide if they want to spend $ on a second room (they could split the cost of the one room) or all share…
And if you can’t put up the guy in your house, that is reasonable, I would just be completely up front about it all. Tell your friend you are excited to meet her boyfriend, and then explain the situation. you are already being generous in putting them up and paying for one room…