Post # 1
Okay so my wedding is 54 days away (not that I’m counting), I had a couples shower in July, in which my groomsmen party met my bridesmaid. My brother-in-law decided to start talking to my best friend, also a bridesmaid. Is it just me, or should this be a boundary??? She’s been my friend for 17 years, so to me its like my sister dating my brother. Anyways, they had their first date yesterday, and there’s already been so much dishonesty and miscommunication. And to top it off, its starting to interfere with my relationship with my fiance.
I guess really I just need to vent, being that I can’t talk to my fiance without it becoming an arguement, since I can’t talk to my “best friend” anymore, or my mom or mom-in-law!
UGH! why couldn’t they wait till after the wedding!
Post # 3
I think you are bent out of shape over nothing. They are both adults. They are not related. They are each able to decide who they want to date.
Post # 4
am i the only one that laughed outloud? they are adults, you cant dictate who they see and if you feel like its your sister dating your brother then thats your issue to deal with. i suggest step away and let them make their own choices – for your concerns, i do hope they keep it together for at least another 55 days at least
Post # 5
I know that that’s how I should feel, and i’m trying hard to get myself there. In the time that I’ve been engaged, one bridesmaid dropped out already because of said brother-in-law. Tonight I found out from him that the current bridesmaid was planning on leaving my bachelorette party early this saturday to meet up with him. And I mean, after 17 years of being friends, shouldn’t she be the one telling me this?
I’m not trying to dictate, just think there should be a certain amount of respect between all parties (which is why I haven’t gone to other people, other than my fiance and you ladies).
Post # 6
@julies1949: Agreed. She might feel like your sister, but she’s not. I take it this is FBIL? Because he could date your actual blood relative sister and still be fine, they still wouldn’t be related.
Not sure what all the dishonesty stuff is about but you shouldn’t be fighting with your Fiance about someone else’s relationship…
Post # 7
@alyssabol: I don’t know what you mean by the dishonesty stuff and why you can’t talk to anyone about it, for your sake I just hope there’s no drama at the wedding.
Beyond that there’s really nothing you can do. Focus on what’s important, you’re about to be someone’s wife 🙂
Post # 8
I think you should have a talk with your best friend. Sit down with her and let her know that you are worried (said dishonesty) and that you hope she won’t let this budding relationship affect your friendship, come between you and you Future Brother-In-Law, or Fiance and Future Brother-In-Law, or that should this not work out, she will not let it have any negative affect on your wedding….ask Fiance to do the same thing with Future Brother-In-Law. I understand your feelings, and like PPs have said you cannot say who they can date and who they can’t but you can express your worry to your friend about your friend, and that you are worried it won’t work out and she could get hurt….(i.e. the reason for the previous bridesmaid leaving)…