(Closed) Bridesmaid and attending wedding-related events

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@researchingbee:

That’s totally understandable. just be honest.  She shouldn’t expect you to fly out 3 times!  If she’s a good friend I donno why she wouldn’t be understanding.

Post # 3
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think there is anything wrong with telling the bride you can’t make it to Vegas. Since you’re a bridesmaid, I’m assuming you two are close. Just be honest with her and tell her you can’t afford to fly out to Vegas. I’m sure she’ll understand!

Post # 4
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46663 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s funny that finances are still such a difficult topic for most adults. It is no reflection on you that you can’t afford 3 flights in a couple of months. Most people couldn’t. Very few people in your situation could afford even one flight.

Phone her so you are talking in person- not texting or emailing. Tell her that you have just done your budget for the year and cannot afford these three flights. She may or may not be able to help out. If she doesn’t, just tell her that you know she will have a great time and that you look forward to seeing her at the wedding.

Post # 5
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just let her know!

I am also a graduate student and a bridesmaid in a wedding in the fall.

I just had the financial situation talk with my bride last week as I just wanted her to know that I would do what I could but that money is tight and I don’t want to disappoint her. She thanked me for bringing it up as she wanted to let me know all she cares about is me standing up beside her on her day. It made me feel a lot better!

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