(Closed) Bridesmaid and Covering Her Expenses

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would just talk to them about it. How about you take them out to dinner together and tell them how much it would mean to you but that you understand it is a financial burden. You should think about specifically what costs you’re going to cover so they’re clear on how much they will be spending. Maybe let them talk about it privately and get back to you? 

Post # 4
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would consider just offering to cover x, y and z (in a private conversation of course – not in front of the other BMs) and not bring up the financial burden issue. So I’m envisioning something like, “We’re so excited to have you, your Darling Husband and your children in our wedding! Let me know what their sizes are so I can order their outfits!” then “Oh no, it’s our pleasure. We’re just glad you accepted!” For example, we sked DH’s cousin for both of their children’s participation and we never brought up the financial burden part, even though we knew it would be a lot of money to outfit two kids the way we wanted. So I just went ahead and said I already placed an order; they just need to know what sizes to ship.

And depending on what else you want to cover for them, you can just do it earlier on so it’s already done and paid for, such as “Hey, what day are you planning to head in? We are looking to book hotel rooms for everyone.” “Oh, we covered yours! Thank you so much for your help!”

Post # 6
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

Are you for sure that it would be a financial problem? If so, I would ask, then let them say, oh, hey we’d love to, but it’s really more money than we can afford. Then you can say, well we were thinking we could cover X, Y, and Z. (be specific) But I wouldn’t start out by offering because that may offend people.

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