(Closed) Bridesmaid and maid of honor selection: I need an outside opinion! (Sorry, long)

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d go with cousin N.  I do think you should include your best friend in your bridal party if you feel you can have him stand with your bridal party and not be too stressed about your family.

Post # 6
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If I were you, I would make my sister my Maid/Matron of Honor, or go without one. In the long run, I think it will mean a lot to your sister to know you didn’t pick anyone else over her. πŸ™‚

I definitely think you can include your best friend (the guy), and ask him to stand up with you, on either your side or on your husband’s side. 

Then if I were you, I’d also ask J and H to stand up with you.

Your best friend or J can throw a shower, since your sister won’t be able to do that at 14. πŸ™‚ Just clue them into the situation and ask if they would mind filling the gap. J sounds like she’d be happy to do it.

Post # 7
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think your best friend is the natural fit for the Maid/Matron of Honor role, but he may not want to be part of your bridal party.  I think he’d be honored to stand with you and I’m assuming all your friends/family know you are friends with him.  It doesn’t have to have anything to do with his sexuality and it doesn’t need to be mentioned.

Once you decide on the members of the wedding party – you can designate the Maid/Matron of Honor.  You should pick the person who you are closest too, IMO, not necessarily the one that will fulfill the duties best.  You can always delegate certain aspects of planning to those in the wedding party that are both able to and willing to fulfill the job… it’s doesn’t all have to all on the Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 9
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yay: Sister, Cousin N, friend H and Cousin SM

Nay: Cousin S and J- I’d be VERY careful with the co-worker thing- while you are very friendly now, you said yourself that you’ve only know her a year and trust me, the people you are friends with at work- they aren’t always your friends later on in life, especially when you are younger (I mean no disrepect by this).  4 is a lovely number, too.



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