(Closed) Bridesmaid and Ring Bearer Drama

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Purple…this is gonna sound harsh/bridezilla-ish but to make things more simple:

1) Just pay for fiance’s tux

2) Eliminate the Jr. bride’s maid & ring bearer from the entourage.  That way, mom’s demands will no longer be a problem and you’re not left running around looking for swatches and making sure the dress goes w/ the rest of the entourage.  (Only do this if Jr. Bride’s Maid will & ring bearer will not be heart broken over this decision.)

Sometimes, it’s just best to keep things simple.

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with hazel. If you eliminate the Jr. bridesmaid and the ring bearer, the mom may change her mind about what she wants to do. This is your wedding, so in theis case going the bridezilla route would be appropriate, in my opinion.

Post # 5
250 posts
Helper bee

A mom here…. go bridezilla

she agreed for them to be in it and now she is not upholding the part of the bargain

So give  her an out, say If you can’t afford i understand, but I can’t either…. so let’s just cancel their parts…..



Post # 6
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Umm I’m the opposite here.  I think the Jr. Bridesmaids don’t have to wear the same dress as the other girls.  So I think that you should get her a sample of the fabric but ask that the dress be a style appropriate for a girl her age.  I’m sorry but big girl dresses don’t always look right on little girls.  And if you want the Ring Bearer in a tux then offer to pay for it in full or go half-way on it with her.  Either way if she buys a suit instead of the tux you’ll have to pay full price for you’r FI’s tux.  So try to go half on it with her.

I just don’t see the point in getting everyone all worked up over it.

Post # 8
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just pay for everything.

Post # 9
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah my Junior bridesmaids are going to wear cream like my dress.

Post # 10
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hope it all works out for you, Purple! 

Post # 11
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i agree with flamingred. 

it sucks on your part that they put this all on you now without speaking up about it sooner.  but if it saves everyone from heartache – the mom from having to pay for outfits and you not having to compromise for the look you want – then the easiest solution id go with is just offering to pay enitrely or even partially for the dress & tux.

sorry youre in this pickle.  we’re all entiled to our bridezilla moments here and there and i hardly think youre one in this situation.

best wishes! 

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